Neighbours not speaking to each other?

[usjarian]

Hi all,

I have just moved to USJ. I was previously staying in Penang. Though this may not be a general case, but I was very surprised (and probably dissappointed) to learn that my neighbours (on both sides) chose not to speak or even smile at me. As me and my family moved our stuffs into the house, the neighbours (husband and wife) came back from work, they parked their car, greeted their dog, and while i was standing there at the front gate trying to put up my best smile - I was dissappointed that they didn't even looked at me. They just walked into the house, as though they could not see me (we have lorries parked in front of our house, boxes on the floor, etc...it was very obvious that we were new neighbours moving in...)

The next morning, I woke up seeing that the piles of cardboxes (which i have tied nicely) that I have placed outside the door on the left side of my house has been shifted to the right side of my house. The strings were broken (as though they were thrown with much force, and the cardboxes were all messed up..

Since i am new to the neighbourhood and new to this forum, could you guys share with me if this 'situation' is normal in USJ? I called my 2 friends who stay in different parts of USJ, and they told me that this is normal. I am still holding to the hopes that I have chosen a friendly neighbourhood...

[headache]

It's quite normal in the cities. However, do try to make an effort to approach them. If you fail, at least you have tried your best. Just let them be, lor.
BTW, I have a neighbour who stays almost opposite and he/they are a 1st class arseholes (I've a posting somewhere about them). This guy thinks he marries an Ang Moh and drives a Toyota MR2, he's high above everyone. Cheh!!!
No wonder the rest of the neighbours don't bother to talk to him/them.
Let them be the Lone Rangers of the neighbourhood, mar.

[usjarian]

Thanks..at least I know I am not alone in my depression about this. I will make extra effort to greet them the next time I have the opportunity.

But, since I am just renting the place, can anyone suggest which USJ ## would have a friendlier neighbourhood? I would rather move to a friendly USJ since I have not purchased most of my furnitures yet. If they start throwing our rubbish around, I am afraid their next step would cause harm to my family members..

[Firefly]

Welcome to the big lonely city. Try an make an effort to know your neighbours. If all else fail, we, your cyber neighbours, are still here and are a friendly lot.

[maxtrition]

yeah its pretty sad. I grew up in germany and over there people/neighbors are really friendly to one another (and this in a big city!). Here everyone jealous of what the other is driving la.....very sad!

[chookyan]

The bright side is having neighbours who do not speak is more peaceful than having some **** people as neighbours like some of us are facing.

[usjarian]

I do feel very glad that I have some super-friendly "cyber neighbour" here..thanks a lot.

When I was working in United States 3 years ago, my neighbour (a black american) actually came over to my house to inform me that she had just purchased a threadmill exercise machine and asked me if it was ok for her to use it late at night after she comes back from work. Though there were a little bit of noise from the threadmill when she is using it, it cooled my heart knowing that she has asked permission to make the 'noise' from me before she even started using the newly bought machine! what a marvelous and considerate neighbour she was! when I moved out from my house, I gave her my own exercise equipment to add to her collection.

I am still hoping to find a friendlier USJ#. Does anyone out there have any nice neighbours to share with us? Please let us know which USJ are you staying in. I will move there! And you can expect to see me greeting you with a smile every morning and evening

[mysticalangel]

Hmmm...generally, having lived in USJ for 4 yrs or so, the people had been quite friendly. I have had really nice friendly neighbors all along. Now its the opposite but for that sacrifice I get to sleep in till 8am and get to work at 9+ and get my peace and quiet when I get back home...so blissful...not much of battling that horrible jam that USJ/SJ is famous for and yes, the loud music from the mamak store opposite.

[nwl_234]

my neighbours are friendly, they will always have all these kenduri or birthday parties. they invited us to makan together . That's why whenever i see them, i'll greet them, sometimes put up a smile . when we encounter any problems(small matters though), they'll lend us their helping hands.

BTW, i live in USJ 4, interested to move in this friendly neighbourhood

[CCY]

Thanks..at least I know I am not alone in my depression about this. I will make extra effort to greet them the next time I have the opportunity.

But, since I am just renting the place, can anyone suggest which USJ ## would have a friendlier neighbourhood? I would rather move to a friendly USJ since I have not purchased most of my furnitures yet. If they start throwing our rubbish around, I am afraid their next step would cause harm to my family members..

Yes it took me more than 2yrs to break down the barrier with my neighbour when I shifted to PJ years ago . He is a malay guy working in the bank . Maybe because of work pressure or what I do not know . But after the first acknowledgement , we became extremely good neighbours then . The kids mixes and exchanges of fruits ,visiting during hari raya ,takes place .
Guess ,you will have to be patient . If nobody avoid seeing each other at the gate , then there is still hope . Time will heal whatever suspision they have at the begining . Persevere then .

[Firefly]

Mine's not bad...but I may not be consider one by them... my doggie refuse to stay in her kennel at night an it not only driving me up the wall but my poor neighbour as well... My most sincere apologies to them on the doggie's behalf.

We seldom talk except for the recent current event, I got to know most of them. (up and down the whole street) All of them are very friendly and very cooperative.

[headache]

Thanks..at least I know I am not alone in my depression about this. I will make extra effort to greet them the next time I have the opportunity.

But, since I am just renting the place, can anyone suggest which USJ ## would have a friendlier neighbourhood? I would rather move to a friendly USJ since I have not purchased most of my furnitures yet. If they start throwing our rubbish around, I am afraid their next step would cause harm to my family members..

My immediate neighbour's house is up for rent in SS17. It's being handled by an agent. If you want, PM me. Thanks.
Oh.... except for that Arsehole, the rest are pretty good.

[orchipalar]

But after the first acknowledgement , we became extremely good neighbours then . The kids mixes and exchanges of fruits ,visiting during hari raya ,takes place .

Err...CCY...how come we stay so close to each other...you never offered any fruits to Orchi one?

That be the best neighbourly spirit to have...keeping an open mind n arms to your neighbours n all...much of barriers could be non existence in no time...

Look at Orchi...still able to send home grown mangoes all the way to USJ12 lar...USJ17/18 lar...USJ2 lar...USJ6 lar...SS17/18 lar...TP lar...USJ 1 lar...SriDamansara lar...n most all over USJ2 also wor...n the best part of the offering is in the receiving tonnes of praises from everyone of them whom had eaten the mangoes before...hehehe...the praises were not addressed to Orchi wor...infact ALL of them said...Whoa Lau Eh!...these are the BEST mangoes they have ever tasted before leh...got some more ar?...heheh...not Orchi says one.

See lar Orchi...when you are good to your neighbours...most certainly they are good..err...at least to your mangoes lar!

[tan_r]

[COLOR=Blue] Look at Orchi...still able to send home grown mangoes all the way to USJ12 lar...USJ17/18 lar...USJ2 lar...USJ6 lar...SS17/18 lar...TP lar...USJ 1 lar...SriDamansara lar...n most all over USJ2 also wor...n the best part ...

Shut up! There isn't enough to go around!

[jadewhite]

Shut up! There isn't enough to go around!

Er.... Orchi. Any special delivery to Kelana Jaya?