According to today's Star.. the title "parents say school not to blame", is that title really necessary? What is trying to be proven there? That there is always need to blame and defend? Quit the blame and defend system, and do something about the situation. Security guard said there were about 70 registered parents on the 1st day of school vs a normal of 40? Why stop parents on the 1st day even?
In Taiwan, kidnap cases are not uncommon, but usually doesnt happen around the school. WHY?
Simple.... parents are always welcome in the school b4 classes start. Kids who go in, cannot come out without written permission from the teacher, to be presented to the guard on the way out. Parents are always encouraged to spend time in class b4 it starts, to integrate with other kids, and teachers. That way all students are familiar with who are their classmates' parents, and that way they can look out for each other. They ask each other if they see someone they are unfamiliar with. During the 1st few days of school... teachers are armed with cameras and the school has surveillance cams everywhere. Teacher take pics of everything that goes on in class at every occasion. They know every parents' face.
When i used to go to my kids' schools/... all their classmates know who i am. They talk to me, and that way they can monitor the movements of their classmates and adults around.
Discouraging parents from entering the school premises merely makes every strangers. If you kid is being led away by a stranger and his/her own classmates witness it.. they wont even know if it is a parent or a stranger. No one knows anyone. In Taiwan, there are PTA members at every entrance of the school, and at every junction nearby, wearing school banners/jackets, leading the kids across the streets. They too are monitoring the regular walkers. They recognize familiar faces and most can even tell you who the kids' parents are. They call out to kids with adults they are not familiar with. They ask the kids..."is that your mom/dad?" Then when the kid responds.. they greet the adult, and introduce each other. It is a face to face thing. Everyone knows every familiar face. Everyone looks out for one another.
As a former PTA member, i know most kids in the school even tho i might not know all their names. I encourage parents in appearing at school more often.. so that kids know who belongs there.
Dont blame the buses, the guards, or any stupid reason. Just do something about it. My daughter got lost on the 1st day of school and had no idea how to get out. Good thing i spoke to the guard earlier that day and explained to him that the bus should not leave without her. Good thing too.. coz they went around looking for her when she didnt turn up. If classmates are taught to look out for one another, less mishaps will happen. It is a normal way of life to look out for those close by. And since they will be together for a year, more reason to do so. Parents should also know one another. that way they can look out for other kids too.
The role of the PTA is not merely for fund raising. Not all parents are able to fork out money all the time, but some can certainly offer to help in school. Communism is not for Malaysia. Leave it in China pls. Dictatorship shouldnt be allowed. Parents and school administrators should work hand in hand all the time, not just for money matters. There is more to life than making money and making the grade. What's making the grade when well-being is at stake? What's all that money for when your child is not safe?
Rethink stale ideas and open up to fresh new ideas. The school is not a military compound. It is a place of growing. Grow together as a community and as a family. This can only be achieved by knowing one another. Start with the children. They are smart. They will learn to look out for one another. Let them know who parents are. That is a start. Dont tell me it is not easy with such a large school. my daughter's school in Taiwan is almost double that size here and had more entrances/exits. There are volunteers at every exit everyday. There are volunteers at every junction everyday regardless of the sun, rain or cold. Teachers take turns everyday at the junctions too. Teachers and parents work hand in hand all the time. All schools in Taiwan hv the same system of having parents volunteer their services. Parents even help out b4 school starts in the morning by checking the kids homework, Making sure they hv it all done, and making sure the classroom is in good condition. If there is anything that needs to be fixed or cleaned.. it is done.
Dont shut parents out. Principals???? Are you reading any of this?? Open up your minds and eyes. Parents? Take an active role in PTA. Work together!!
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