Finally i am able to get online and catch up on a few things here. Suffering with a Pen2 laptop here since all my stuff are in a container waiting to get to M'sia. Pre-marital sex seems interesting enough to start the day with.
Sex education should be inroduced, but i guess it will take a while b4 it really goes into effect. When i was in my teens in the 80's , my science teacher went thru the human reproduction subject in less than an hour, reading entirely out of the book, word for word. The topic was never mentioned again after that. I dont think she was comfortable about it at all.
What the hell did i know about sex then? Nothing!
I do wish there was sex edu at school or something at the time. I wouldnt hv gotten into it kinda blindly. Now i dont even know how to talk to my kid about sex esp since my son has just entered his teens.
Back to the topic on pre-marital sex, i dont think it is always a good idea, but then again, it is an individual choice. I do know of people who had 1st time sex after they got married, and they would say to you it was a mistake. One particular friend complains her hubby is so lousy in bed and nothing she tries can make it better. Another complains his wife is lousy. Another wife says her hubby expects her to behave like a slut in bed which she hates. If they had known it was going to be that way b4 they got married, they probably wouldnt hv gotten married in the 1st place. Of course, not everyone is like that. Some couples hv long marriages even though they hate the sex part. Some just tolerate it, some avoid it altogether, some just keep trying, and some bitch about it out of frustration.
However, like CHL , EJ and a few others hv said.. it is a responsibility that shouldn't be taken lightly. Young (and even older) people tend to be reckless when it comes to sex, thinking 'it won't happen to me'. I hv been known to be reckless before and during marriage ( with my hubby that is). I can't say i am saintly in any way. Abortions do happen to married people too. Not just teens or the unmarried.
How far can one push their luck? If you HAVE to do it, be safe, and be happyand do it with a clear mind. Regrets arent the best feelings to carry thru life.
CHL, your views hv almost ( i say 'almost' as i might hv missed out on a few postings? )always come out as noble, straight forward, honest, not meant to be disrespectful. Dont pull out of any thread just because anyone says anything to discourage you from saying what you mean.
There! I said it. now i can hv a nap. Moving house can be really tiring.
Insecurity is unattractive. Smile and the whole world smiles with you.