Psycho neighbour loves parking at my gate, & is rude when asked nicely to move car.

[PinkShoes]

Hi, I'm new to forum, but have actually lived in USJ for the past 10 years.

I have this beef with the people who live in the house on the left of mine. There are at least 5 singles renting that house (one of the occupants is a little kid of 6-7 yrs old), & all of the adults own a car each.

The problem is they keep parking their cars in front of my gate, or when their friends come they also happily park at my gate even though their own gate is vacant. For what reason, I don't know. But it's really annoying especially when I have to go out.

Telling them nicely to move their cars is not effective. They are extremely rude & arrogant, & can tell us that "they can park wherever they choose to, & it's nobody's business". Some of them even show us their middle finger. Once I came home, & found that one of their friends had parked right in front of my gate & I had to honk for a good 5 minutes before the car owner came out of the house, grumbling. Then one of them who rents next door even had the cheek to say loudly that they were living with "f*cking inconsiderate neighbours". She even called me a b*tch, & I said back "takes one to know another."

Yesterday I wanted to go out, I opened my gate, & found one of them had conveniently parked her car right across my gate, totally blocking it. It took her a good 20 minutes or so to slowly crawl out of the house & move the car. And she had the cheek to glare at me as if it was my fault that she had to move her car (from outside MY gate). I didn't say a word to her.

Anyone can suggest some ways to educate these people? I'm sick & tired of this happening on a regular basis. My mum is alone in the house during the day when I go to work & these people come & go at all hours. I worry that one of them (these are able-bodied youths in their 20s-30s) may harass her while I'm out. I've wanted to go to the police many times, but my mum is afraid they will take it out on her when she's alone in the house.

I did get some suggestions from friends to hang No Parking signs at my gate, but I doubt that will do much good. The way these people are behaving, the more they see signs telling them not to park, the more they will do it.

The landlord of that house lives in Brunei, & doesn't care who rents his house as long as he gets his money. In the past, he had a big fight with one of the other neighbours & migrated. Then he rented out the house, & I have no idea where he found these people.

2 of the cars have Penang number plates... & so do some of their friends' cars. The cars with the Penang plates are the ones who keep parking at my gate.

I'm really disappointed that there are such uncivilized people around. & it's stressful to go out or come home each day, not knowing if you have to create a scene just to be able to freely move in & out of your own home... or will you be late for any appointments because these people happily leave their cars at your gate & then disappear.

Tonight came home & one of them actually parked his car right in the middle of the road outside my gate. I had to horn for 5 minutes nonstop at midnight before the guy slowly crawled out & took his time moving his car. Then he stopped the car behind my car for a few minutes like waiting for me to get down or something. I took my time getting out of my car. He got down at the same time as me & came very close. I just ignored him & he didn't say anything or do anything or even look at me. Another Penang car plate. Really fed up. I'm pretty sure he expected to leave his car in the middle of the road all night long if i hadn't come back & honked him out of his slumber.

[SiangMalam]

Have a sit down talk with the local police head and ask for assistance to resolve this. Ask the police to help with a few big hunk honchos to sit those guys down... I'm from Penang although I was born in Seremban and grew up in KL and I can tell you Penangites are the worst people when it comes to road manners and any other manners....

[ng]

Malaysia has become a country of uncivilised selfish people who simply park their cars in the middle of the road. The main problem is enforcement is poor and also these people were not thought to be considerate to neighbours from their parents.

[Scooty]

also these people were not thought to be considerate to neighbours from their parents.

Exactly. Parents have a very important role to play here. Bring up your children properly. That isn't hard to do now is it?

Back to your problem. Your best bet is to have a chat with the authorities. They should be able to assist you. Good luck.

[Rhiga]

Hi, I'm new to forum, but have actually lived in USJ for the past 10 years.

I have this beef with the people who live in the house on the left of mine. There are at least 5 singles renting that house (one of the occupants is a little kid of 6-7 yrs old), & all of the adults own a car each.

The problem is they keep parking their cars in front of my gate, or when their friends come they also happily park at my gate even though their own gate is vacant. For what reason, I don't know. But it's really annoying especially when I have to go out.

Telling them nicely to move their cars is not effective. They are extremely rude & arrogant, & can tell us that "they can park wherever they choose to, & it's nobody's business". Some of them even show us their middle finger. Once I came home, & found that one of their friends had parked right in front of my gate & I had to honk for a good 5 minutes before the car owner came out of the house, grumbling. Then one of them who rents next door even had the cheek to say loudly that they were living with "f*cking inconsiderate neighbours". She even called me a b*tch, & I said back "takes one to know another."

Yesterday I wanted to go out, I opened my gate, & found one of them had conveniently parked her car right across my gate, totally blocking it. It took her a good 20 minutes or so to slowly crawl out of the house & move the car. And she had the cheek to glare at me as if it was my fault that she had to move her car (from outside MY gate). I didn't say a word to her.

Anyone can suggest some ways to educate these people? I'm sick & tired of this happening on a regular basis. My mum is alone in the house during the day when I go to work & these people come & go at all hours. I worry that one of them (these are able-bodied youths in their 20s-30s) may harass her while I'm out. I've wanted to go to the police many times, but my mum is afraid they will take it out on her when she's alone in the house.

I did get some suggestions from friends to hang No Parking signs at my gate, but I doubt that will do much good. The way these people are behaving, the more they see signs telling them not to park, the more they will do it.

The landlord of that house lives in Brunei, & doesn't care who rents his house as long as he gets his money. In the past, he had a big fight with one of the other neighbours & migrated. Then he rented out the house, & I have no idea where he found these people.

2 of the cars have Penang number plates... & so do some of their friends' cars. The cars with the Penang plates are the ones who keep parking at my gate.

I'm really disappointed that there are such uncivilized people around. & it's stressful to go out or come home each day, not knowing if you have to create a scene just to be able to freely move in & out of your own home... or will you be late for any appointments because these people happily leave their cars at your gate & then disappear.

Tonight came home & one of them actually parked his car right in the middle of the road outside my gate. I had to horn for 5 minutes nonstop at midnight before the guy slowly crawled out & took his time moving his car. Then he stopped the car behind my car for a few minutes like waiting for me to get down or something. I took my time getting out of my car. He got down at the same time as me & came very close. I just ignored him & he didn't say anything or do anything or even look at me. Another Penang car plate. Really fed up. I'm pretty sure he expected to leave his car in the middle of the road all night long if i hadn't come back & honked him out of his slumber.

This is a typical example of bully…

Talk nicely, talk history, talk sense, talk neighborhood, talk brotherhood, etc. will only remain as tokok when you are dealing with bully...

There are ONLY 2 ways to handle bully…

1. Seek help from the police
2. Let the bully meet the bigger bully.

Of course, (1) should be the preferred choice

[Scooty]

There are ONLY 2 ways to handle bully…

1. Seek help from the police
2. Let the bully meet the bigger bully.

Of course, (1) should be the preferred choice

I like option no 2. That ought to teach them lowlifes a lesson! But it isn't easy to find a bigger bully to assist you unless you are friends with some club bouncers. Ok, back to option no. 1.

[chookyan]

When I had that problem with a shit neighbour, one day I came back and can't get in, I just park somewhere else. Got home took out a piece of paper and wrote - Do You Own this Road? IF not learn to park and stick it on his windscreen with heavy dose of super glue on four corners - after that never happen again.

[zinglicious]

To talk to the Polis about the big bully or bullies, it pays to do this
(1) take pictures
(2) better still, take your time to the Balai at the time when they are parking there.
(3) when making the report, ensure that you stated the fact, you have an aging mum and you staying there. ( in case of medical emergency )
(4) tell them you are being bullied
(5) Tell them you are at your wits end how to solve the problem without retaliation from the youths.
(6) in short, tell them exactly how you feel - most of all scare stiff!

I am sure the Polis in USJ would be sympathetic and helpful to resolve your fears and predicament of being bullied.

BTW, even a Mean O Chef like me get bullied those years back when I lived at the link house and I also did the same thing.like the Balai story...... well almost.......just that I added bit of black and white peppers to my Bully story. He and his honchos had to moved out......of considerations for neighborhood.

[bslee]

Employ some fierce or burly guard to sit outside the gate.
If any reason? Desperate times, desperate measures!
NO JOKE!

[Justme123]

I would not advocate any means by physical force.
You are at a disadvantage as they know where you live, your house, aged mother, whereas the tenants can run off to anywhere.

I think taking pictures and video is a good move.
Then report to MPSJ and the police.
I think the MPSJ can fined them for such parking offences. I was issued a summon once for parking (properly) in front of my relative's house, so irresponsible parking should a better case for a fine.

[vsat]

I'm very sensitive to noise. So in the past, I have hunted down a few noisy vehicles and told them to take it easy. I would say 100% complied. I said it in a nice but firm way.
My last incident was 2 weeks ago. As I live in along the houses of TTDI Jln Datuk Sulaiman, whenever a bike revs to go to his home, I'd run out and try to look for him. The first 2 weeks, I couldn't find him because he had gone into his porch and some gates are built so we can't see in ..pplus it was at night....One night, I heard him from afar and he passed me but i had already started my car....by the time I reached the middle of the housing road I had lost him but there was a guy walking his dog and I asked if he heard the noisy bike, he said , "he's in that wooden gate house". I called him and introduced myself. Told him whenever he revs his bike at the entrance, elderly people, young babies wake up. And this is a classic one . I said "Can you please slow down when you reach the entrance?" You know what he said? He said "I'll consider it". I said "Excuse me?" Sir, kindly slow down or use the other lane to ride to your house" Finally, he said he will use the other lane. And I don't hear him nowadays.

I have hunted down all sorts of vehicles from motorcrosses to factory buses. One motorcross stays in Court 10. I had to go one parking bay by one parking bay to look for the bike. Then go to his unit and tell him off.
The factory bus , I got the license plate and emailed Ministry of Transport himself , Ong Ka Ting .... He replied and they actually followed up. They sent an sms saying the factory bus has no license, etc..... I did not hear from both motorcross or factory bus any longer.

If you want, and I assume you are single, I can pretend to be your man and I can tell them in a nice and firm manner. I always address everybody as "Sir" eventhough they're young. I will make them understand and be rational. No rowdiness. If this fails, we shall discuss the next option.
Like I said, Im sensitive to noise and when you honk in the middle of the night to get these guys off, and if i'm staying nearby , I'd go crazy. I wear earplugs to sleep eventhough there's no noise. I wear earplugs when I walk from Masjid Jamek to my office.

Anyway, my offer is extended out ....

[bslee]

Thats why I say again, this land is cowboy country, with rampant disregard for law, civility, conscience or any sense of responsibility to others around yourself. Its more of problem prone society where lots of events shouldn't happen or be allowed to happen, but its happening, even more in this century. Its very much seen as " You're right, as long as you're not caught!" So what do people do? boils down to desperate preventive measures ON YOUR OWN in desperate times to keep the peace...obviously not resorting to violence if it can be avoided at all costs. A lot of ugly behavior is irreversible and we bear witness to civility and discipline going down the longkang very fast or its already down there.

[patrick]

Feel very sorry for you and I know how you feel. Here's a method someone told me about:

Invite your toughest, meanest looking friends, contacts, acquaintances etc over to your house for a small party and make lots of noise and make sure your nasty neighbours hear it. Just seeing you have such friends may tame them down once and for all. Alternatively, invite police or army friends and tell them to come in their official vehicles or in their uniforms.

Good luck.

[bslee]

C'mon lah Patrick, that's tantamount to provocation and tit for tat. Maybe it all come to some punch up event, hostility may become worse thereon. Can be quite real you know?...
I think TS should pop into the Police Station, consult them, hear what they have to say first.
Do tell or share with us what they may say. It could be interesting.

[PinkShoes]

I filed a complaint via MPSJ's online portal this morning. After submission, there's a line saying that it will take 48 hours turn around time. We'll see if they can commit to that. Here it goes:

Jiran letak kereta sehingga menghalang pintu masuk rumah saya dan meletak kereta di tengah jalan.

Penyewa rumah * Jalan USJ 8/**, 47610 Subang Jaya seringkali meletak kereta mereka sesuka hati, sehingga menghalang pintu masuk rumah saya yang di sebelah kanan rumah mereka. Mereka juga sering meletak kereta di tengah-tengah Jalan USJ 8/** sehingga saya tidak dapat memandu kereta saya masuk ke kawasan rumah saya. Saya telah cuba meminta secara elok supaya mereka tidak berbuat sedemikian tetapi mereka dengan angkuh dan biadap mengatakan mereka boleh meletak kereta di mana-mana. Saya tidak tahu bagaimana untuk menyelesaikan masalah ini kerana mereka tidak ramah, tidak boleh dibawa berunding secara aman, dan pernah juga menunjukkan jari tengah kepada saya serta memanggil saya dengan kata-kata yang kesat kerana tidak suka ditegur meletak kereta di hadapan rumah saya. Ini amat dikesali kerana mereka langsung tiada semangat kejiranan. Harap pihak tuan dapat mengambil kira perkara ini. Sekian.

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