Change in sexuality- a worrying trend?

[usehead]

There have been increasing numbers of teenage girls in Singapore who see their counsellor to learn how to get their boyfriends to have sex with them.

Is this the end results of sex education? Effect of education as a whole in broadening the mind? Failure of education/upbringing to help them to cope with pressure and stress? Due to increasing stress in daily life? Change in sexuality in this modern days? Influence of TV? End of taboo? Or merely so-called peer pressure?

[yvonnefoong]

May I ask where did you get this information from?

[Hiliary]

maybe it means that Singaporean girls are more in touch with themselves or mature faster than boys, or the boys are just useless? maybe the ladies and the boys are getting all mixed up

[superdude11224]

Any reports off gurls like this in Malaysia? If yes I will be glad to counsel them on this

[Fabe18]

I recall reading it on staronline few days back... I think it's on the other dailies section..

[usehead]

Any reports off gurls like this in Malaysia? If yes I will be glad to counsel them on this

There must be some isolated cases which had been covered up. However, those could represent only the tip of an iceberg.

[AllUrban]

There have been increasing numbers of teenage girls in Singapore who see their counsellor to learn how to get their boyfriends to have sex with them.

Is this the end results of sex education? Effect of education as a whole in broadening the mind? Failure of education/upbringing to help them to cope with pressure and stress? Due to increasing stress in daily life? Change in sexuality in this modern days? Influence of TV? End of taboo? Or merely so-called peer pressure?

Lots of questions and a little bit of fear ...

1) Sex education also includes education about safe sex and mature relationships. I guess it is worth asking if it is better for females to have sex in response to pressure from their 'boyfriends' who 'love' them - or to be in control of their own sexuality.

2) Teenage females are 1-2 years more mature than their male peers. It is also a general world wide trend that educators have been paying more attention to female students and this has resulted in improved marks for female students, increased university placement and increased ratio of females to males in the workplace.

3, 4) I think it is just the opposite. They have made a choice based on where they feel the "Singaporean woman" is in their society. You may also wish to consider government influences (baby & family bonus) and social pressures

5, 6, 7) Generally there has been a shift towards a more casual approach to sexuality, which is being influenced by popular culture and a lack of parental participation in the daily lives of the young.

8) As with all young people, the effect of peer pressure is always going to be strong - so the efforts of the parents, governments, counselors and resource personnel should be devoted to helping children make wise, safe choices and understand that some things are not cool.

As for Malaysia - Im sure that the issue is of even greater concern in Malaysia because of the following:

*lack of positive education on sexuality
*distorted 'love' maps (a 'love' map is a representation of a person's sexuality & relationships and what is considered 'appropriate' and inappropriate')
*immature attitude towards sexuality including sexual harassment, sexualized or mysogynistic (women-hating) comments (like the ones in parliament); and 'macho' attitudes;
*media hype about 'sex' (look at the 'most read/emailed' section or 'daily chilli' - or the front page of the Malay Mail!);
*general cultural fear of female sexuality;
*lack of community resources & social services.

anything else?

Cheers, m

[usehead]

Lots of questions and a little bit of fear ...

As for Malaysia - Im sure that the issue is of even greater concern in Malaysia because of the following:

*lack of positive education on sexuality
*distorted 'love' maps (a 'love' map is a representation of a person's sexuality & relationships and what is considered 'appropriate' and inappropriate')
*immature attitude towards sexuality including sexual harassment, sexualized or mysogynistic (women-hating) comments (like the ones in parliament); and 'macho' attitudes;
*media hype about 'sex' (look at the 'most read/emailed' section or 'daily chilli' - or the front page of the Malay Mail!);
*general cultural fear of female sexuality;
*lack of community resources & social services.

anything else?

Cheers, m

That is why we got pre-marriage course here to rectify things.

I never attend one because it was compulsory only for the Muslims.

Afterall, I guess it is kind of an extension of religious teachings about responsibility and sexuality.

Extension or revision??

[in]

There have been increasing numbers of teenage girls in Singapore who see their counsellor to learn how to get their boyfriends to have sex with them.

This could be because the girls do not want to lose thie bf's. They think that by having sex with their bf, the boy will will not stray and look for sex with other girls who are more willing.

That is why we got pre-marriage course here to rectify things. I never attend one because it was compulsory only for the Muslims.

Catholics who want to marry in church must also attend a pre-marriage course.

[AllUrban]

That is why we got pre-marriage course here to rectify things.

I never attend one because it was compulsory only for the Muslims.

Afterall, I guess it is kind of an extension of religious teachings about responsibility and sexuality.

Extension or revision??

I thought Catholics were also expected to attend pre-marriage courses - not sure if it is coming down from the vatican or more local, at the diocese level.

Pre-marriage courses are a great idea - but so is sitting down and talking to your partner about your future together - and not to mention, sitting your children down and talking to them about responsibility, safety and healthy relationships.

Cheers, m

[lady-o-leisure]

Hi Yvonne... i think usehead was referring to an article.. http://www.dailychilli.com/news/3057...ve-making-tips

[AllUrban]

This could be because the girls do not want to lose thie bf's. They think that by having sex with their bf, the boy will will not stray and look for sex with other girls who are more willing.

A good reason why 'sex education' should focus on sexuality and relationships rather than just the mechanics of sexual intercourse.

Remember the 'no-panties on valentine's day to show your love' nonsense?

How is that in any way a reflection of love? It is a reflection of subservience and submissive behaviour.

Cheers, m

[usehead]

A good reason why 'sex education' should focus on sexuality and relationships rather than just the mechanics of sexual intercourse.

Cheers, m

Then who shall teach them the mechanic part of it?

[QuietStorm]

Then who shall teach them the mechanic part of it?

Superdude11224?

Any reports off gurls like this in Malaysia? If yes I will be glad to counsel them on this

[AllUrban]

Then who shall teach them the mechanic part of it?

It can be included in the curriculum but the focus should be on individual self-respect, sexuality & intimacy, and finally, healthy relationships.

Cheers, m