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    Question Is One Night Stand Popular In Malaysia?

    I have heard one of my girl friend's friend is very active in one - night stand. She is only 24 years old. That's why i started this thread and would like to know more about Malaysian's thinking. Are we following the West Culture or is it Human's nature?

    Anyone has any opinion on this?

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    to each its own. what they do is their own business.

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    Quote Originally Posted by coleslaw
    to each its own. what they do is their own business.
    Yup, i agreed with you totally. What i don't understand is the girls nowadays are very bold! So, would like to know what caused them to do so! Is it the the influence of West Culture or a more open mindset? Has it got to do with the Stress that Malaysians are facing currently?

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    Don't think it's the stress. It all boils down to parental guidance. Some parents just don't care (for whatever reasons) and as a result, their kids go awry. A friend got a to know his colleague - a girl of 20 - at his new office. 1st day at work only and this girl told him she started to "chau sui" (sleep around) 15! At the end of the day, she asked him to kiss her because it was her birthday the following day. Go figure!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sugarfree
    Don't think it's the stress. It all boils down to parental guidance. Some parents just don't care (for whatever reasons) and as a result, their kids go awry. ...
    sorry, but I beg to differ.

    going down the wrong path in life cannot be anyone's fault but ur own if u choose to go down the dark path altho u know very well wat r the consequences of it.

    parents cannot be the cause of the kids gone wry (altho there can be some cases that cannot be blamed, which may be the minority), cos at the end of the day, it is up to the individual to be who they want to be in the future.

    if a girl chooses to be promiscuous, it is her choice, nobody (esp her parents) pointed a gun at her head n told her to be so. if she wants to be known as the "village bicycle" - anybody can take her for a ride, then let her be it, as she is fully aware that her image is well tarnished already.

    she can choose to put her life back on track, even as a clerk will be more reputable than being the village bicycle. but did she?

    sorry to lari topic btw.

    i agree with coleslaw that to each their own tho, who are we to comment on their behaviour? they chose to be this way, so be it then. anyone can be promiscuous, it's a matter of self control at the end of the day.

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    never judge a book by its cover. if girls enjoys it, so do guys. we cannot relate western culture to us here. How can you be sure that western culture accept one night stand ?

    All here is depands on oneself respect of themselves.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lynndhia
    sorry, but I beg to differ. parents cannot be the cause of the kids gone wry (altho there can be some cases that cannot be blamed, which may be the minority)...
    parents play an essential role in bringing up their offsprings from day 1. there's no point in doing anything when the child is already grown and all. they've to start them young, at 3 or 4 years old. i strongly believe if parents do their bit, plus guidance from teachers, things should be fine. but of course, there are exceptions to the rule.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sugarfree
    parents play an essential role in bringing up their offsprings from day 1. there's no point in doing anything when the child is already grown and all. they've to start them young, at 3 or 4 years old. i strongly believe if parents do their bit, plus guidance from teachers, things should be fine. but of course, there are exceptions to the rule.
    I must agree with you parents role come before any other. I assume most of us are speaking from EXPERIENCE.

    Well said.
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    Quote Originally Posted by termibait
    ...What i don't understand is the girls nowadays are very bold..
    I disagree. This is not a new phenomenon. I have heard of girls being very bold even in my father's times. Termibait, you hear of one friend's friend doing it and you make a conclusion that the present group of ladies are so forward? An acorn drops on your head and the sky fell?

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    Yes, this is not a new phenomenon. However, I find that girls are more open about it nowadays than they were in those days. Girls dont really mind (or care) if they are virgins before marriage as many (but not I) think that it is not a significant virtue anymore.

    I have a few girlfriends who told me that they wouldn't even think of marriage before living together first. Well, they do have their point of trying to "find out if they are compatible" with their boyfriends first before plunging into marriage. But these things are frown upon by society in the old days. I am sure in the old days people don't openly tell others that they want to live together instead of getting married.

    Hmmm I guess this is not the same as 1-night-stands. Opps... out of topic...

    Ummm what I am trying to say is, I think yes, the girls are bolder nowadays and 1-night-stands are getting more and more common.... And yes, of course I am worried...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sugarfree
    parents play an essential role in bringing up their offsprings from day 1. there's no point in doing anything when the child is already grown and all. they've to start them young, at 3 or 4 years old. i strongly believe if parents do their bit, plus guidance from teachers, things should be fine. but of course, there are exceptions to the rule.
    I agreed totally with you, Sugarfree. Though lynndhia is right to say that children choose their own destiny, own path... but parents actually play an important role in child development from very young. Proper guidance hv to be guided since young.

    Coming back to this topic.... I think coleslaw has the point. She is big enough to think and to decide what is right and what is wrong. As long as she adopted a safe sex, I think she is just want to sought some fun from her daily boredom.

    So termibait, did she approach you for one night stand too?
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    Quote Originally Posted by kwchang
    I disagree. This is not a new phenomenon. I have heard of girls being very bold even in my father's times. Termibait, you hear of one friend's friend doing it and you make a conclusion that the present group of ladies are so forward? An acorn drops on your head and the sky fell?
    Chang, nothing wrong with Termibait's statement what..... he is saying generally. He is not saying "all girls in this world". I mean beside this one night stand, there are girls who would pose in front of the webcam (I am sure some of you hv seen this kind of pictures spreding thro' email before). So, the statement girls nowadays getting bold is generally true.

    I think as the country developing .... these social problem is unavoidable. People tend to adopt the practices from westerners as they think all these are awesome.

    Another reason could be these children do all these on purpose to attract their parent's attention. I think we have seen / heard many many of such cases shown in "Kisah Benar" before. So again... I must stress PARENTS PLAYED AN IMPORTANT ROLE IN CHILD DEVELOPMENT
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    [QUOTE=birdy]

    "I think as the country developing .... these social problem is unavoidable. People tend to adopt the practices from westerners as they think all these are awesome."

    Yupp, thats the price to pay for a country that is developing. A fren of mine will every now and then pick up her fren from a hotel in PJ on Sunday morning after her one nite stand with the mat salleh .. she is doing this on regular basis!! Till now, i still dun understand why she is doing this and why my fren agree to pick her up fr the hotel. She shared her experience with her and my fren will every now and then tell me a bit about her "rendevous" .... was a bit uncomfy with her action but what to do ... macam macam ada in Bolehland nowadays. While trying to understand why she is doing this, i can only say that she cant seems to find herself a boyfren and i think its her mistake in being too open (generally).... come on ... who dare to take her as girlfren (serious relationship) knowing she will be in the bar alone looking for mat salleh .... She is quiet close to her family, work in an IT firm and earning not bad too .... just hope she practise safe sex and one day wake up and decided to stop what she is doing to herself ... wish i could slap her and wake her up!!

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    all this talk bcos it's a female we are talking about. if its a male no one would even blink. can't blame on parental guidance as well. would a father tell his son," son u r grown up already, please go sow yr wild oats"," girl, please keep yr legs closed!" it takes 2 to tango. during our grandparents time, girls are not even educated and are percieved to be the weaker sex. nowadays its equal opportunities..in all areas. at the end of the day, they and only they are responsible for their actions. no need for us to be jury and judge on their actions.

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    coleslaw, I am sorry I hv to disagree with you on your opinion.

    of course when we said parents played an important role in child development doesn't mean the parent must insist the children to follow what they want them to be. ... that's old fashion parenting skills, I must say...If you do that, I think the children will live in the puzzle or reluctant to listen.

    Parent play the role in explaining them, accompany them during the growing up stage so that they won't be lonely. Of course, nothing is guaranteed.... the children can still disobey the parent, etc... but normally a healthy family would bring up the children better.
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