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    Can a person just fall out of love...

    Now tell me the truth... can a person just fall OUT of love with another person. No third party, no interference, no nothing... the love just dies... and no more interest/magic in the relationship !!

    Btw - just helping a friend out here with this problem... if you guys were wondering...

    So, your take - please...

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    LOL!! Nope...not likely. Unless your fren has third party, has interference, has something out of nothin'!

    Or else it was not luv in the start, something else. Or is your fren hoping for undyin' romance all the time? Cannot la, romance dont last for ever, reality sets in after a while. Even if not luv you mean, after some period of time being together, luv can cultivate between 2 people.

    If suddenly one says I don't luv you any longer, than i think something must have triggerred that. Maybe boredom? Maybe outside the relationship your fren is seing better stuff and is comparing?

    You better advice your fren to leave the relationship since he or she not sure and give the other person a break. Freedom! to find someone else that is sure of a commitment.

    My wife and I have gone tru a lot of hurdles. 3rd party, money, family the inlaw and outlaw, but we still stick together. We know we have luved and have come this far and we will never stop luving each other.

    We can fight till all the cows come home but at the end of the day we still cannot live without each other. that's luv........

    Your fren must be a confuse person. Can ask him to take a holiday to clear his head first.

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    It really depends on how it started in the first place.

    Did the relationship start on a rebound? Rebound as in one party just had a breakup and the other party just happends to be along...
    Did the relationship started on physical attraction, Lust, "short gun" or what?

    Please remember that Love can be defined in many ways and have many meanings.

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    Then USJResident's fren shouldn't call that 'fallin' out of luv' in the first place because he or she needs to 'fall in luv' first then 'fall out of luv'. I know has many meanings. I know.

    LOL! has anyone wondered why they use the word 'FALL' in n 'FALL' out?

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    Quote Originally Posted by USJ27Resident
    Now tell me the truth... can a person just fall OUT of love with another person. No third party, no interference, no nothing... the love just dies... and no more interest/magic in the relationship !!

    Btw - just helping a friend out here with this problem... if you guys were wondering...

    So, your take - please...
    I think this can happen....If in relationship for too long without getting married, the love will dies....

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    Quote Originally Posted by ccek
    I think this can happen....If in relationship for too long without getting married, the love will dies....
    Maybe this happens mostly to young people. MOSTLY. More matured people are more sure of what they want, they know what commitment is. I'm just sayin' this if like what USJResident said, no third party and no interference.

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    That's a possibility. But you also need to look inside that relationship. That brings to mind another question...Why is it that we can have buddies where we can talk , share and have good fellowship without having to fall out of it? Is that not called relationship as well?

    added.. reply to ccek.

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    Buddies luv different level. We don't need to share a bed with buddies and make a family or become one.

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    Most probably there are cumulative unresolved , then 'tolerated' incidences over a period of time when they are in the 'fall in' and it just need a minor incident to trigger the tipover to 'fall out'.
    Or the body chemical may have play havoc in this case.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CCY
    Most probably there are cumulative unresolved , then 'tolerated' incidences over a period of time when they are in the 'fall in' and it just need a minor incident to trigger the tipover to 'fall out'.
    Or the body chemical may have play havoc in this case.
    Wise thinkin' there. But luv should still be there. Every relationship has troubles. The question is can USJ's fren 'fall out' completely?

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    Having mention that, should you not treat a relationship as a buddy as well? If you are not treating it as a buddy, then where is the communications in the relationship? ( Sharing the bed is only an added bonus ) (not talking of brokeback mountain)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Firefly
    Having mention that, should you not treat a relationship as a buddy as well? If you are not treating it as a buddy, then where is the communications in the relationship? ( Sharing the bed is only an added bonus ) (not talking of brokeback mountain)
    Some things my wifey don tell me and she has good buddies where she hangs out with. Same same here. But buddies I don luv them la. But I don hate them either.

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    I think two persons can definitely fall out of love after a period of time. Being in a relationship takes hard work but during the course of time, we tend to forget the little things that make a relationship special. We are also too distracted with many things that surround us - kids, career, money, etc.

    The passion has sizzled out and that is where they have to work at it. Sometimes, we just assume that our partner should know that we love him/her but we do not express our love enough. We tend to take things for granted, which we should never do.

    I am sure that USJ27resident's friends still love each other - love doesn't die overnight, it probably has shifted to a different kind of love. At the end of the day, it all depends on what works for them. Are they satisfied with this kind of love? Or is the lack of passion (or magic) the problem?

    The first step for the said couple to do is to sit down and talk.
    If I had a thousand sons, the first human principle I would teach them would be to forswear thin potations and to dedicate themselves to Sherry - William Shakespeare (Henry IV, Part II)

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    Quote Originally Posted by sherrygin
    I am sure that USJ27resident's friends still love each other - love doesn't die overnight, it probably has shifted to a different kind of love. At the end of the day, it all depends on what works for them. Are they satisfied with this kind of love? Or is the lack of passion (or magic) the problem?

    The first step for the said couple to do is to sit down and talk.
    This is good.

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    Fall out of love becoz there r no sparks & excitement?? I think u shud go bk & look at ur relationship, there were promises made to ur partner & urself, there were also good times u shared with ur partner, dun just simply leave ur partner just like abondoning ur car becoz it's ran out of gas lar...

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