View Full Version : Is your child save in the hand of the tutor?

09-03-2003, 03:13 PM
In today's Star newspaper, it is reported that a 50+ year-old mathematic private tutor, who is a bachelor man, was found guilty of sexually molesting his students aged between 13 - 15. One of the child is still suffering from depression resulted from the traumatic experience despite having gone through numerous counselling.

It daunts on me the danger parents expose their young children to such abuse when sending them to private home tuitions. Leave the child there for two hours and the safety of that child is at the mercy of the tutor!

So, the next time you engage a private tutor for your children, do not be too busy to check on the tutor's background. Give it a serious though about the danger your children may be exposed to if you make a mistake!

Some may think that their children are safe because the tuition session is done in group of three or four. Don't be sorry to find that the sick tutor would ask that your child stays back for an extra hour at no cost to you so that he or she can catch up. And if the poor child refuses out of fear, the parents, especially the mother, would go hysterical and punish the child for disobedience. God knows what happen to the child!

I have no intention whatsoever to accuse all private tutors of this hideous crime, but there bound to have the bad ones lurking around. Parents. I know many of us are "kiashu" and can not wait to see our children score 16 A's in their exam. Just be careful and not hurt your babies, think for their safety.

10-03-2003, 11:44 PM
Don't be hysterical. You can find sex maniacs lurking everywhere - even within one's families. Don't start the witch hunt on tuition teachers. Most just want to earn a living.

11-03-2003, 08:42 AM
sad, really very very sad. even 8 mths of pregnancy is not good enuf a defence agst rape. females of today, from new born to those on the verge of saying goodbye, are not safe any more. sickos have redefined their illness (or is it game?). best parents and guardians can do is to educate our children / ward and maybe arm them with martial arts / pepper sprays??? sinleong's absolutely right - don't go witch hunting - u'd end up in a straight jacket cos there's just too many looney's in the faces that we come across.

from witch hunting, here's a laff (sic!)to spider hunting :

3 women in KL, turned up at hospitals over a 5-day period, all with the same symptoms. Fever, chills, and vomiting, followed by muscular collapse, paralysis, and finally, death. There were no outward signs of trauma. Autopsy results showed toxicity in the blood.

These women did not know each other, and seemed to have nothing in common. It was discovered, however, that they had all visited the same Restaurant along Jalan Kuchai Lama within days of their deaths. The health department descended on the restaurant, shutting it down. The food, water, and air conditioning were all inspected and tested, to no avail.

The big break came when a waitress at the restaurant was rushed to the hospital with similar symptoms. She told doctors that she had been on vacation, and had only went to the restaurant to pick up her check. She did not eat or drink while she was there, but had used the restroom.

That is when one toxicologist, remembering an article he had read, drove up to the restaurant, went into the restroom, and lifted the toilet seat.

Under the seat, out of normal view, was a small spider. The spider was captured and brought back to the lab, where it was determined to be the Two-Striped Telamonia (Telamonia dimidiata), so named because of its reddened flesh color. This spider's venom is extremely toxic, but can take several days to take effect. They live in cold, dark, damp climates, and toilet rims provide just the right atmosphere.

Several days later a lawyer from JB showed up at a hospital emergency room. Before his death, he told the doctor, that he had been away on business, had taken a flight from Indonesia, changing planes in Singapore, before returning home. He did not visit the restaurant, while there. He did, as did all of the other victims, have what was determined to be a puncture wound, on his right buttock.

Investigators discovered that the flight he was on had originated in china. The Civilian Aeronautics Board (CAB) ordered an immediate inspection of the toilets of all flights from china, and discovered the Two-Striped Telamonia (Telamonia dimidiata) spider's nests on 4 different planes!

It is now believed that these spiders can be anywhere in the country. So please, before you use a public toilet, lift the seat to check for spiders. It can save your life! And please pass this on to everyone you care about.

and i responded with my brand of pleasantries:

hey stupid @#$% how can u be so @#$%^&* dumb as to believe in such great great grandma stories. this joke began from a restaurant somewhere in america. somehow the magic of mutation has moved the eatery to m'sia. u know, if u lift the toilet seat u will find dead rats and live scorpions. so the moral is don't go to the loo. hahahahah. another moral is if u are looking for spiders, go look under toilet seats. tell that to 10 yr old kids. more probable life saver is this lesson from the story - after using the loo check your bottom for holes which are not original. wahahahahaahah. i've got a magnifying glass for rent - a special one something like a periscope but which provides a rear view - i mean view of your own rear.

and to make sure u don't die of spider stings, i have to also warn u that spiders don't dwell only in toilet bowls. even if that is their most natural habitat for this species, they will be elsewhere while in transit from one loo to the next. my guess is that they will seek refuge under chairs in restaurants, under your car seat, under the seats of buses and LRT, etc. so as not to die from stings of such dangerous 8 legged monsters, the moral must be DON"T SEAT ANYWHERE.

can you stand this? if not u better start to learn really fast cos by now u would probably have givenup sitting down. that means u gonna stand up forever more.


12-03-2003, 07:59 PM
We read today in The Star the sex maniac was sentenced to 18 years in jail. By the time he serves out his time, he would be a 70 year-old gray old man.

We read about incest, sexual abuse of young children by close family members. Even the mentally retardeds are not spared from the evild of rape.

The issue here is what, as parents, we could do to prevent this tragedy?

12-03-2003, 10:38 PM
As a child, I was never thought much about rapes and such, my parents being the typical Asians are not comfortable about teaching their kid things as such. However, in our generation, parents have to brave this and teach our children, not only for the young ones not to talk to or follow strangers, but also which part of their bodies are touchable and which are not, but whomever it may be, stangers, friends or kin.
Along this line, we must instil a clear sense of right and wrong so that the child cannot be coerced into keeping quiet when such incidents happen. An open line of communication is a must between children and parents, so that we can observe their change in behaviour and also allow them to confide in us without fearing the repercussions, no matter who they are accusing.
We have also to teach our children the way to watch out for themselves, as many times, I have read of teenagers being raped by men they have just met in shopping centres or pubs or clubs and followed therm elsewhere.
Sometimes rapes are sheer bad luck, like the girl on the bus but some are brought on by the victims by not taking their own precautions, like going off with strangers they have just befriended.

12-03-2003, 11:59 PM
sin leong had some real sense in his words.

there's no need to go on this witch hunt with tuition teachers. unpleasant ppl lurk EVERYWHERE. but luckily, they're not the majority.

and how the heck does that spider story factor into all this??!!


13-03-2003, 07:10 PM

Pls. do not get carried away, the issue here is how we can prevent rapes and sexual abuse on our children.

We read about a policeman daughter was raped in a public toilet, a young girl gang raped by 5 young adults. A young and beautiful female computer programmer raped and murdered in an express bus. Are all these not mean anything to us? We accept it as 'risk' ?

I teach my sons about the danger of sexual abuse that can happen to them and how they can detect such danger early anough to avoid it. I teach them about not allowing people to touch them, creating a safety perimeter around them and so on. Equally important is for us to make sure our kids will not grow up to be another maniac.

13-03-2003, 07:52 PM
you have to accept life as a risk.... good things can't stop just because bad things happen.

about the rapes and the sexual abuse, i honestly think a lot has to do with the fact that malaysian society is too closed up about sex. no one is willing to talk about the issues that the world is grappling with - from sexuality, to AIDS and VD, to even leading a fulfilling sexual life without having to resort to the gross perversions we hear in the news. if ppls mentalities change, things will too. and less will suffer.

14-03-2003, 09:01 PM
I agree with what Empress has to say.

According to a statistic I picked up some time ago, able man thinks of sex once every 5 minutes. As such, in our mind, like it or not, sex is always there. However, in a society of 'close sex', the frustration of not able to speak our minds and talk about sex in the open is indeed turning our sexually active men insane.

But what are we going to do about it? Go counselling at the MB's office?

17-03-2003, 07:06 PM
i just remembered the answer to what is life quoted in a local tabloid many many moons ago.
life is a std to those in the dark, std is sexually transmitted disease.;)