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Jennylim
17-12-2009, 11:19 AM
http://www.thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2009/12/17/focus/5318603&sec=focus

I wonder how many parents pay attention to what's happening to/with their children. If you go to cybercafe, you would be wondering, do parents know their kids are in the cybercafe while they are busy earning money at work!

Just visit any cybercafe in subang jaya/usj, anytime of the day, you would be concerned, what are these kids going to do in a few years time? I came across a boy who goes to cybercafe everyday, but the mom at home thought he was attending school activities.

teamplay
17-12-2009, 12:01 PM
I guess a lot of mothers can relate to the letter by Sad Mum. It is not so simple anymore as restricting or banning their activities like our parents do us.
Going to Cybercafe, shisa at our neighbourhood mamak, smoking are ill activities for teenagers but you see them doing it without any fear. Are all this legal.. Sometimes I wonder, where is the social responsibility of these business outlets not to supply these services to the minors.
Well, all said and done, it is not easy being a parent :( .

Sentinel
17-12-2009, 12:21 PM
I guess with both parents busy as bread winners and spending long hours at work, the problem of neglected kids running around and up to no good is only expected to be rampant. That is why whatever time one can get on weekends and even after office hours on working days must be spent "communicating" with the kids.

Don't just blame the authorities for making cigarettes available or for allowing them into cybercafes, its us parents to be blamed. We have to "communicate" with them a lot and ensure we guide them properly.

I have a friend who is working long hours as well and I noticed his children are so well-behaved and disciplined. I asked him about his secret and this was what he had to say:

"Hey, we talk a lot. We share all our secrets. They tell me everything and I tell them everything. The day my kids stop talking to me, I know I am in trouble..."

I thought about this statement a long time and finally I realised that it is all about "two-way communication" and respect bewteen parents and the kids. I am at a loss for words explaining this statement but I am sure forumers here are smart enough to figure out the meaning.

zinglicious
17-12-2009, 01:00 PM
That is why one of the forumers send his kid after SPM to the Hell's Kitchen! :D
Here in Malaysia, I jsut dont know why parents feel that it is shameful to let htier kids to have holiday jobs and work in the restaurant or fast food joints. My nephew who is from NZ, not only have holiday jobs since age 15 years old but part time evening job flipping burgers while his peers were flipping internet or girlfriends. Was named the top medical student in his college and pursue his interest in neuro surgery. He has been to most of Asia and currently working odd jobs along the way in his break and just got a offered a senoir resident hospital doctor in Australia. BTW, he is below 25 years of age.
My brother was asked during the office christmas party how the heck this son and also the other sons got to be this level - His replies is - Guess the part time job was the motivation and success factors! :) :D :)

Jennylim
17-12-2009, 04:35 PM
it is all about "two-way communication" and respect bewteen parents and the kids. I am at a loss for words explaining this statement but I am sure forumers here are smart enough to figure out the meaning.

Yes, communication is really important. You get to know them and their friends better. It is through my son I knew how serious the problems have became. I heard about how teens going easy with sex, video them, show to friends, smoking, truancy, gangsters,...

On the other hand, teens in city has limited things that they can do together. That's why I proposed Rajiv to give it a thought on some musical, cultural activities, etc.. In Klang, a lot of NGO(clan associations) are doing these kind of activities, I was impressed with the participation of young kids and teens. These activities give them a short term goal in life, help built self confident, engage them in healthy activities from young,etc...