PDA

View Full Version : Son getting married in Perth- Should I hold a separate function here?



Chia Hak Soon
23-06-2009, 11:21 AM
Dear forumners, my son a P.R. in Australia, is getting married in Perth. Except for a handful family members attending , should I hold a belated wedding function in K.L. and give summons to my other not attending family members and friends ? Your opinion is appreciated.

twohands
23-06-2009, 12:05 PM
if you can afford it, and your son and his wife and her family have no problems with it, then why not? everyone loves a celebration :)

irisbaggins
23-06-2009, 12:07 PM
Depends loh.....but if you let me decide......I won't loh....too mafan.....

LMei
23-06-2009, 12:09 PM
Unless you can afford it, I would think that you should invite family members to the function in Australia. I like a 1 time wedding celebration. For those cannot make it, at least they won't say they're not invited and left out.

waga
23-06-2009, 12:20 PM
1st and foremost....congratulation to you and family....

I would just stick to that wedding in Perth simply be'cos its very tiring for d bride n groom....unless your family are very traditional.

however you can do an announcement adv. with photo via Star newspaper and same time give gifts like chocolate/porcelain wares to all your relatives..this is a must and close friends....this one,up to u... who are in Malaysia.

this is what i would do if such a scenario happen to me.....

fRaNkY
23-06-2009, 12:30 PM
If you have many relatives and friends here in Malaysia and you would like to share this happy occasion with them... YES

If you have many older relatives and friends here in Malaysia... YES. Its kinda of respect to them and family gathering thingy.

You have the choice of having it budget, big, grand or close friends only.

Sentinel
23-06-2009, 12:38 PM
MAS has jet rental for their BBJ (Boeing Business Jet) which is a converted Boeing 737 but can seat 100 passengers in Business Class comfort. Check out their website.

fRaNkY
23-06-2009, 01:36 PM
Dangerous! :D *touch wood*

Better do in on the ground :D

jan tomaswaki
23-06-2009, 01:46 PM
[QUOTE=Chia Hak Soon]Dear forumners, my son a P.R. in Australia, is getting married in Perth. Except for a handful family members attending , should I hold a belated wedding function in K.L. and give summons to my other not attending family members and friends ? Your opinion is appreciated.[/QUOTE
Congrats!!! I think its best to have it in Perth as in a month or so its spring should be nice to have a garden party.i also thought of having one with my wife when we celebrate our wedding ann. maybe in margerat River ( south west Perth - 230km),vineyard.Last time i went backpacking with my wife (cycling),we spent 2 weeks there!just a small town ( abit smaller than Taipan)

Sentinel
23-06-2009, 02:00 PM
Dangerous! :D *touch wood*

Better do in on the ground :DI was proposing they bring their guests over to Perth for the first wedding dinner and fly them back for another one here....

USJ27Resident
23-06-2009, 02:00 PM
Except for a handful family members attending , should I hold a belated wedding function in K.L. and give summons to my other not attending family members and friends ? Your opinion is appreciated.

Hahahaa... Give the "summons" leh... :p Then can collect "angpows" lorr...

CS Chua
23-06-2009, 02:04 PM
Dear Chia Hak Soon, Congratulations. Hope we can call you grandpa Chia next year.

I faced a similar situation 2 years ago when my daughter married an Aussie chap. But I was adamant that a Chinese wedding banquet be held in KL. I wanted him to meet all our family members and relatives through the Chinese tea ceremony and vice-versa. Moreover, I think it is important that he be introduced to our culture, lifestyles, and family members properly.

And they did come down for the wedding banquet and everything went well fabulously. He enjoyed Malaysia so much that he plans to come back regularly for CNY. And he is also closer to the family members and relatives. I think it is important to make him feel that he is part of the family and we should do what we can to smoothen the process.

fRaNkY
23-06-2009, 03:38 PM
Dear Chia Hak Soon, Congratulations. Hope we can call you grandpa Chia next year.

I faced a similar situation 2 years ago when my daughter married an Aussie chap. But I was adamant that a Chinese wedding banquet be held in KL. I wanted him to meet all our family members and relatives through the Chinese tea ceremony and vice-versa. Moreover, I think it is important that he be introduced to our culture, lifestyles, and family members properly.

And they did come down for the wedding banquet and everything went well fabulously. He enjoyed Malaysia so much that he plans to come back regularly for CNY. And he is also closer to the family members and relatives. I think it is important to make him feel that he is part of the family and we should do what we can to smoothen the process.

Agree with your point!

orchipalar
23-06-2009, 05:42 PM
Err buddy Chia Hak Soon...1st of all Orchi wishes to congratulate you...

2ndly...should you decide to hold a wedding dinner back here...
you must invite Orchi to attend...

Else...Orchi won't speak to you anymore...:D

BIGGEST Congrats to you n family... :)

Naka
23-06-2009, 05:59 PM
Surely your son & wife should have some friends here othewise it's going to be a small party.

If that is the case, a KL function is a must.

Just my 2 cts

QuietStorm
23-06-2009, 06:54 PM
I faced a similar situation 2 years ago when my daughter married an Aussie chap. But I was adamant that a Chinese wedding banquet be held in KL. And they did come down for the wedding banquet and everything went well fabulously. I think it is important to make him feel that he is part of the family and we should do what we can to smoothen the process.Absolutely. :)

QuietStorm
23-06-2009, 07:04 PM
My son a P.R. in Australia, is getting married in Perth. Except for a handful family members attending , should I hold a belated wedding function in K.L....Congratulations, Chia! Having the wedding dinner here is a good idea. Do it! :)

AllUrban
24-06-2009, 12:50 PM
Dear forumners, my son a P.R. in Australia, is getting married in Perth. Except for a handful family members attending , should I hold a belated wedding function in K.L. and give summons to my other not attending family members and friends ? Your opinion is appreciated.Chia, congratulations to you and your family.

Speaking from my own experience, I am holding a grand total of 3 (possibly 4) receptions for family and friends....because most of my friends live on the other side of the world and a majority of my family live in the Indian Subcontinent.

But it doesnt have to be an elaborate reception. Something like a garden party where you invite the happy couple to come to Malaysia and share their happiness with ur friends, family (and forumers?)

Wifey and I invited colleagues and family to our registration in Singapore then took them out to dinner. Reception in Malacca at the end of this year. The reception in Canada (sometime in 2010) will probably be a picnic at the park. The reception in Pakistan (if it happens) will probably just be a family get together.

By the way, those words are what really matter ... family + get-together.

Cheers, m

Chia Hak Soon
24-06-2009, 02:02 PM
Thanks to all your suggestions, I am elated. Prehaps one day I will do a barbeque for forumners. Hokkien says " pow chia one " :) :) :)

EricK
24-06-2009, 10:05 PM
I would respectfully ask you for your son's opinion. I know wedding are more a family affair or more the parents celebration rather than the couple itself in an asian setting. And being the dutiful son , i 'm sure he will sure accept whatever you say but first just ask his opinion.... You know the forumers opinion in here but have do you really know what is your son's opinion?

Richard Poh
09-07-2009, 10:41 AM
Do you collect angpow and keep all the cash ?