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termibait
18-12-2006, 12:37 PM
I have heard one of my girl friend's friend is very active in one - night stand. She is only 24 years old. That's why i started this thread and would like to know more about Malaysian's thinking. Are we following the West Culture or is it Human's nature?

Anyone has any opinion on this?

coleslaw
18-12-2006, 12:51 PM
to each its own. what they do is their own business.

termibait
18-12-2006, 01:09 PM
to each its own. what they do is their own business.
Yup, i agreed with you totally. What i don't understand is the girls nowadays are very bold! So, would like to know what caused them to do so! Is it the the influence of West Culture or a more open mindset? Has it got to do with the Stress that Malaysians are facing currently?

Sugarfree
18-12-2006, 01:18 PM
Don't think it's the stress. It all boils down to parental guidance. Some parents just don't care (for whatever reasons) and as a result, their kids go awry. A friend got a to know his colleague - a girl of 20 - at his new office. 1st day at work only and this girl told him she started to "chau sui" (sleep around) 15! At the end of the day, she asked him to kiss her because it was her birthday the following day. Go figure! :D

lynndhia
18-12-2006, 02:17 PM
Don't think it's the stress. It all boils down to parental guidance. Some parents just don't care (for whatever reasons) and as a result, their kids go awry. ...

sorry, but I beg to differ.

going down the wrong path in life cannot be anyone's fault but ur own if u choose to go down the dark path altho u know very well wat r the consequences of it.

parents cannot be the cause of the kids gone wry (altho there can be some cases that cannot be blamed, which may be the minority), cos at the end of the day, it is up to the individual to be who they want to be in the future.

if a girl chooses to be promiscuous, it is her choice, nobody (esp her parents) pointed a gun at her head n told her to be so. if she wants to be known as the "village bicycle" - anybody can take her for a ride, then let her be it, as she is fully aware that her image is well tarnished already.

she can choose to put her life back on track, even as a clerk will be more reputable than being the village bicycle. but did she?

sorry to lari topic btw.

i agree with coleslaw that to each their own tho, who are we to comment on their behaviour? they chose to be this way, so be it then. anyone can be promiscuous, it's a matter of self control at the end of the day.

alexhay
18-12-2006, 02:19 PM
never judge a book by its cover. if girls enjoys it, so do guys. we cannot relate western culture to us here. How can you be sure that western culture accept one night stand ?

All here is depands on oneself respect of themselves.

Sugarfree
18-12-2006, 10:54 PM
sorry, but I beg to differ. parents cannot be the cause of the kids gone wry (altho there can be some cases that cannot be blamed, which may be the minority)...
parents play an essential role in bringing up their offsprings from day 1. there's no point in doing anything when the child is already grown and all. they've to start them young, at 3 or 4 years old. i strongly believe if parents do their bit, plus guidance from teachers, things should be fine. but of course, there are exceptions to the rule.

tntn73
18-12-2006, 11:12 PM
parents play an essential role in bringing up their offsprings from day 1. there's no point in doing anything when the child is already grown and all. they've to start them young, at 3 or 4 years old. i strongly believe if parents do their bit, plus guidance from teachers, things should be fine. but of course, there are exceptions to the rule.

I must agree with you parents role come before any other. I assume most of us are speaking from EXPERIENCE.

Well said.

kwchang
19-12-2006, 12:14 AM
...What i don't understand is the girls nowadays are very bold..I disagree. This is not a new phenomenon. I have heard of girls being very bold even in my father's times. Termibait, you hear of one friend's friend doing it and you make a conclusion that the present group of ladies are so forward? An acorn drops on your head and the sky fell?

kellyk
19-12-2006, 02:24 AM
Yes, this is not a new phenomenon. However, I find that girls are more open about it nowadays than they were in those days. Girls dont really mind (or care) if they are virgins before marriage as many (but not I) think that it is not a significant virtue anymore.

I have a few girlfriends who told me that they wouldn't even think of marriage before living together first. Well, they do have their point of trying to "find out if they are compatible" with their boyfriends first before plunging into marriage. But these things are frown upon by society in the old days. I am sure in the old days people don't openly tell others that they want to live together instead of getting married.

Hmmm I guess this is not the same as 1-night-stands. Opps... out of topic...

Ummm what I am trying to say is, I think yes, the girls are bolder nowadays and 1-night-stands are getting more and more common.... And yes, of course I am worried... :p

birdy
19-12-2006, 06:31 AM
parents play an essential role in bringing up their offsprings from day 1. there's no point in doing anything when the child is already grown and all. they've to start them young, at 3 or 4 years old. i strongly believe if parents do their bit, plus guidance from teachers, things should be fine. but of course, there are exceptions to the rule.
I agreed totally with you, Sugarfree. Though lynndhia is right to say that children choose their own destiny, own path... but parents actually play an important role in child development from very young. Proper guidance hv to be guided since young.

Coming back to this topic.... I think coleslaw has the point. She is big enough to think and to decide what is right and what is wrong. As long as she adopted a safe sex, I think she is just want to sought some fun from her daily boredom. :o

So termibait, did she approach you for one night stand too? :D :rolleyes:

birdy
19-12-2006, 06:42 AM
I disagree. This is not a new phenomenon. I have heard of girls being very bold even in my father's times. Termibait, you hear of one friend's friend doing it and you make a conclusion that the present group of ladies are so forward? An acorn drops on your head and the sky fell?
Chang, nothing wrong with Termibait's statement what..... he is saying generally. He is not saying "all girls in this world". I mean beside this one night stand, there are girls who would pose in front of the webcam (I am sure some of you hv seen this kind of pictures spreding thro' email before). So, the statement girls nowadays getting bold is generally true.

I think as the country developing .... these social problem is unavoidable. People tend to adopt the practices from westerners as they think all these are awesome.

Another reason could be these children do all these on purpose to attract their parent's attention. I think we have seen / heard many many of such cases shown in "Kisah Benar" before. So again... I must stress PARENTS PLAYED AN IMPORTANT ROLE IN CHILD DEVELOPMENT

flowi
19-12-2006, 11:32 AM
[QUOTE=birdy]

"I think as the country developing .... these social problem is unavoidable. People tend to adopt the practices from westerners as they think all these are awesome."

Yupp, thats the price to pay for a country that is developing. A fren of mine will every now and then pick up her fren from a hotel in PJ on Sunday morning after her one nite stand with the mat salleh .. she is doing this on regular basis!! Till now, i still dun understand why she is doing this and why my fren agree to pick her up fr the hotel. She shared her experience with her and my fren will every now and then tell me a bit about her "rendevous" .... was a bit uncomfy with her action but what to do ... macam macam ada in Bolehland nowadays. While trying to understand why she is doing this, i can only say that she cant seems to find herself a boyfren and i think its her mistake in being too open (generally).... come on ... who dare to take her as girlfren (serious relationship) knowing she will be in the bar alone looking for mat salleh .... She is quiet close to her family, work in an IT firm and earning not bad too .... just hope she practise safe sex and one day wake up and decided to stop what she is doing to herself ... wish i could slap her and wake her up!!

coleslaw
19-12-2006, 11:42 AM
all this talk bcos it's a female we are talking about. if its a male no one would even blink. can't blame on parental guidance as well. would a father tell his son," son u r grown up already, please go sow yr wild oats"," girl, please keep yr legs closed!" it takes 2 to tango. during our grandparents time, girls are not even educated and are percieved to be the weaker sex. nowadays its equal opportunities..in all areas. at the end of the day, they and only they are responsible for their actions. no need for us to be jury and judge on their actions.

birdy
19-12-2006, 12:28 PM
coleslaw, I am sorry I hv to disagree with you on your opinion.

of course when we said parents played an important role in child development doesn't mean the parent must insist the children to follow what they want them to be. ... that's old fashion parenting skills, I must say...If you do that, I think the children will live in the puzzle or reluctant to listen.

Parent play the role in explaining them, accompany them during the growing up stage so that they won't be lonely. Of course, nothing is guaranteed.... the children can still disobey the parent, etc... but normally a healthy family would bring up the children better.

coleslaw
19-12-2006, 12:32 PM
birdy,
you can bring a horse to the water but you can't make it drink.

birdy
19-12-2006, 01:40 PM
At least u can tell the horse ... the benefit of drinking water. As I said, it will be very much depending on whether the horse will listen or not... but we will play the important role to tell the horse that everyone needs water, and how water will help him/her. :)

We can also teach the horse to differenciate if the water is clean for drinking, what will be the consequences from drinking a dirty water. Nevertheless, if the horse insist on drinking the dirty water.... he/she will hv to take the consequences. :)

KakiLang
19-12-2006, 01:49 PM
When the horse is small, u can pull it to the water and make it drink, when u tell the small horse to go left, it dares not to proceed right. When it grows up to be a big horse, u can never force it to the water...& when u tell the big horse to go left, it'll make a right turn...That;s the different.. :D

termibait
19-12-2006, 02:36 PM
When the horse is small, u can pull it to the water and make it drink, when u tell the small horse to go left, it dares not to proceed right. When it grows up to be a big horse, u can never force it to the water...& when u tell the big horse to go left, it'll make a right turn...That;s the different.. :D
KaKilang,

If we cannot control Horse, I wonder how those people ride Horse!?

termibait
19-12-2006, 02:59 PM
Oh By the way, Coleslaw did not PM me ler. :)

orchipalar
19-12-2006, 03:04 PM
birdy,
you can bring a horse to the water but you can't make it drink.Err buddy...yes you can...

Ahem...it depends on how hungry or thirsty the horse is...in this case.

Sugarfree
19-12-2006, 03:09 PM
Err buddy...yes you can...Ahem...it depends on how hungry or thirsty the horse is...in this case.
Also depends on the location of the "lohfular" ("tigeress") in certain cases...

kekekekekeke.. :D

sugarstic
19-12-2006, 04:20 PM
Are we following the West Culture or is it Human's nature?
Anyone has any opinion on this?
IMHO, it is not a Western Culture or Human Nature but more of a personal choice of lifestyle... There are girls out there strong believers of one night stands but yet very much Asian during the day... and there are those have succumbed to the habit of one night stands for fear of long term commitments or relationships... whatever their reason, it still remains a choice.. and who are we as humans to judge one another? no matter how different we are, we are still the same homo sapiens... so let's not pass remarks about others thinking we are any better than those who have simply chosen a different route to walk...

coleslaw
19-12-2006, 04:25 PM
sugarstic,
my sentiments exactly.


termibait,
why would i want to pm you?

fRaNkY
19-12-2006, 06:00 PM
15 years ago oredi have girls looking for one night stand.... not just nowadays. Maybe even eve's days :p

I remember one (maybe more) which hangs around in one chat room and chats with guys... then .... like nike says... "just do it"... no kidding... she is from a good family... strict, old fashion, well-to-do.... know what she says... "even a woman have her needs" :eek:

xwp3
19-12-2006, 07:31 PM
NEEDS!!! thats the word.. on daily basis we fulfill the basic needs to eat, drink, sleep n etc.. n somehow we r designed to have "other" needs as well. Comes to a point where if you know what your "NEEDS" are and somehow these era we r living, i think, "one-night-stand" is rather another need that either man or woman are doing just to fullfill it with the mindset "life is short , live life to the fullest.. bla bla bla... as long as nobody got hurt end of the day and its mutual understanding for both parties... n then who are we to pass judgement to these people....;p

The thing is, can you accept it when you know someone close to you are doing this occasionally! What have u got to say then....

jianwei85
20-12-2006, 03:38 AM
hmm, it seems that this topic is discussing bout chronic one night stands so far??

what lynndhia said is true. anyone would ride a villlage bicycle but if u compare a frequent ONS guy n a ONS gal, then usually the gal is perceived as the 'evil'/'unclean' one. while the guy is the jock, the 'man'. yadayada~

occasionally, ONS do happen but it is based on many needs. mainly the sexual need or other environmental or situational conditions.

my take is that, ONS needs both (or more) willing ONS-ers. it takes two to tango n to ONS too! it is more of an environmental or situational condition (just like a checklist) rather than being a cultural 'integration' from the west.

if all the conditions for a ONS are fulfilled successfully (for the two or more ONS-ers) then the chances of ONS happening will be very substantial. i do know of some frens who get thrills on their ONS (both guys n gals). it is as though they have 'scored' (btw, they do keep score), it is a game to these chronic ONS-ers. i believe only they will know the real reason behind their 'games'.

AllUrban
20-12-2006, 09:00 AM
aside from safe sex, the other important factor is honesty

If all you want is one night...say so....no strings attached...say so...if you have another partner...say so

My own opinion is that ONS is not worth the trouble...but if you make the choice, and take the risk, be aware that you can get burned

But sadly...when the mood is on you...and you dont have much in the way of sexuality and relationships education....who wants to stop and think about these things?

cheers, m

ps. if you want to learn more about this issue, visit a useful informative website like the Canadian Government's site called Sexuality and You (sexualityandu.ca)

pps. KWC if you need to remove the partial URL, do ahead, but please leave the name there, it is an information resource.m

sugarstic
20-12-2006, 09:03 AM
The thing is, can you accept it when you know someone close to you are doing this occasionally! What have u got to say then....
If it's a close one, then advice them on the risks of STDs... health should always be the biggest priority... if they decide not to listen, then it's their choice.. but atleast we've done our part as someone who cares... :)

birdy
20-12-2006, 10:25 AM
Don't forget something alike the Mongolian beauty.... :D (Though I know that wasn't ONS case) So, ONS is not worth the trouble. Stay wif your faithful partner. Talk to your partner if you want something exciting... :)

Sugarfree
20-12-2006, 11:31 AM
Stay wif your faithful partner. Talk to your partner if you want something exciting... :)
But what if partner says "too kinky, don't want"..then how? Heheh..I ain't speakin from personal experience but I'm sure some have gone through that...so, then what? :D

birdy
20-12-2006, 11:51 AM
But what if partner says "too kinky, don't want"..then how? Heheh..I ain't speakin from personal experience but I'm sure some have gone through that...so, then what? :D
Then, u hv to first Review yourself loh............maybe you not up to your partner standard.. Heh heh ....

I am sure there are so many tools, tapes, cds, dvd, pictures, magazines, etc..etc to arouse the desire, right?

Sugarfree
20-12-2006, 03:47 PM
Then, u hv to first Review yourself loh............maybe you not up to your partner standard.. Heh heh....I am sure there are so many tools, tapes, cds, dvd, pictures, magazines, etc..etc to arouse the desire, right?
Hehehe...what I mean is, what if the partner (can be either sex) isn't adventurous enough to try out new stuff despite the availability of said tools, so, how, ah? Hehehe....Maybe this is simple too naughty to be discussed here but since it's part and parcel of life, I simply have to urmm...bring it UP! :p :D

sugarstic
20-12-2006, 05:34 PM
One night stands are not popular merely because the other partner is not sexually satisfied... that should not be a reason to choose such a path to walk...

Sugarfree
20-12-2006, 06:01 PM
The question is how to resolve the problem, so that in the end, both partners are happy? Short of taking the '1 nite stand' way outta it or Gawd forbid, divorce!, what can be done? I'm just curious, being the innocent "teen" that I am. ;)

xwp3
20-12-2006, 07:42 PM
somehow it's about LUST as well .. One of my lecturer said once that in his opinion, the one thing which human can't take control of or FAIL to take control of is LUST!

Concern now is, what will happen to the future generations..? our children perhaps... Will they submit to ONS as well..? we'll just never know by then ONS is plain nothing.. Nothing...

twinkles
20-12-2006, 11:31 PM
Lust? U have go to be kidding me! I mean people sleep with other people is just to get satisfaction. They can't get it from their spouse so go prowling at night. I know one person who used to do that n he was actually lying to his gf behind his back! This is no lust this is desire. A desire to go out n have a one night stand with a stranger to get wat they can;t find in their partner but instead to go looking for it somewhere else.

Sugarfree
20-12-2006, 11:43 PM
Lust? U have go to be kidding me! I mean people sleep with other people is just to get satisfaction. They can't get it from their spouse so go prowling at night. I know one person who used to do that n he was actually lying to his gf behind his back! This is no lust this is desire. A desire to go out n have a one night stand with a stranger to get wat they can;t find in their partner but instead to go looking for it somewhere else.
Whoaaa...you seem to know a lot about this desire thing...hmmmm.... ;)

vivacious
21-12-2006, 08:44 AM
One night stands r comon these days. Even some asshole that i know did it. So wats the point on dwelling on it or talking about it? I know guys who tells me things which i dont wanna know about that they perform this act out of for their own needs, their activiti outside their home/family. I just want to know this? After all the cheating and the one night stand act will guys sit n talk it out among their guy friends? I am just curios cos i don't know wat guys will talk about when they get together. It can't be just sports ,cars and bikes rite? It must be something behind the conversation that keeps men talking for hours at the bar.

sugarstic
21-12-2006, 08:49 AM
The question is how to resolve the problem, so that in the end, both partners are happy? Short of taking the '1 nite stand' way outta it or Gawd forbid, divorce!, what can be done? I'm just curious, being the innocent "teen" that I am. ;)
If both parties are still keen to keep the relationship going, then they need to TALK it out the brutal but honest way... if love still exists between them, then the ONS issue wouldn't even cross their minds! that's my honest opinion...

sakaibear
21-12-2006, 09:27 AM
Lust? U have go to be kidding me! I mean people sleep with other people is just to get satisfaction. They can't get it from their spouse so go prowling at night. I know one person who used to do that n he was actually lying to his gf behind his back! This is no lust this is desire. A desire to go out n have a one night stand with a stranger to get wat they can;t find in their partner but instead to go looking for it somewhere else.

i do agree with you to a certain extent but not everyone does that. many talk it over with their other half and the issue will be resolved in due time. if an agreement cannot be made most would just compromise and "give & take". but this is off topic already as it's a one night stand thread. not another thread to go around belittling men and all their "glory".

AllUrban
21-12-2006, 09:46 AM
i do agree with you to a certain extent but not everyone does that. many talk it over with their other half and the issue will be resolved in due time. if an agreement cannot be made most would just compromise and "give & take". but this is off topic already as it's a one night stand thread. not another thread to go around belittling men and all their "glory".true enough...for many couples, ONS is not really "cheating" because there is no emotional connection being made....so it's just physical, can be excused ....

hmmmm...am I cheating...as Ive formed emotional connections with others...(not physical tho....

oh, wait, wrong thread...but a relevant thought :p

Cheers, m

sugarstic
21-12-2006, 09:59 AM
hmmmm...am I cheating...as Ive formed emotional connections with others...(not physical tho....
oh, wait, wrong thread...but a relevant thought :p
Cheers, m
Oh, this I must comment...
Cheating does not only limit to physical connections made behind your partner's back...

Cheating is related to all forms of connection, be it physical/emotional/mental/unintended/with intentions which is detrimental to the relationship and a cause of destruction to the meaning of loyalty!!

termibait
21-12-2006, 03:18 PM
Dear All, i have read all the comments and found it very hilarious(some of it).:) But some of you did provide some useful comments. Thanks

For me, i dont think there is anything wrong about ONS. It is just that ( i find it invading our country too quickly). So, are we(Goverment) prepared for it?Ready to counter STD, Aids,etc??!!!

It can be education, Religious, bla bla bla.....

AllUrban
22-12-2006, 05:31 AM
Oh, this I must comment...
Cheating does not only limit to physical connections made behind your partner's back...

Cheating is related to all forms of connection, be it physical/emotional/mental/unintended/with intentions which is detrimental to the relationship and a cause of destruction to the meaning of loyalty!!hahaha so if you were going to rank them, which one would be the least terrible and which would be the most terrible.

Another reason why cheating happens...is because of miscommunication.

Why does ONS happen? often because people arent interested in communication...gives the physical aspects of the relationship without the emotional ones....

Cheers, m

sugarstic
22-12-2006, 08:37 AM
hahaha so if you were going to rank them, which one would be the least terrible and which would be the most terrible.

Another reason why cheating happens...is because of miscommunication.

Why does ONS happen? often because people arent interested in communication...gives the physical aspects of the relationship without the emotional ones....

Cheers, m
Ranking isn't important because cheating will still be cheating no matter how you decide to rank it...
Miscommunication could have been fixed if both parties were willing enough to open up and talk about it before it becomes worse...
ONS happens because 'no strings attached' seems to be an easier alternative to the complicated 'C' word... (C=Commitment)

rachellee
19-01-2007, 04:49 PM
For me, ONS is just like visiting a prostitute. Just ONS, you don't need to pay for the sexual. Both are the same. No love during the sexual intercourse.

Some kind of guys really love to look for this kind of excitement. no matter it's single, or married. I really do not understand of this act if for a married guy. Is it there want to try on different women or their wife cant satisfied them?

chin_wan
19-01-2007, 07:08 PM
Heard of the term Nymphomaniac (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nymphomaniac) ?

termibait
24-01-2007, 02:17 PM
For me, ONS is just like visiting a prostitute. Just ONS, you don't need to pay for the sexual. Both are the same. No love during the sexual intercourse.

Some kind of guys really love to look for this kind of excitement. no matter it's single, or married. I really do not understand of this act if for a married guy. Is it there want to try on different women or their wife cant satisfied them?

I think that is the human nature! Guys is always looking for excitement. if not, why do we love CAR so much!

perceval
24-01-2007, 07:41 PM
I think that is the human nature! Guys is always looking for excitement. if not, why do we love CAR so much!

Don't think it just applies to guys only, it takes both hands to clap. Last i heard from some radio, singapore even have some swinger clubs that are open to only members where they exchange partners for one night.

termibait
25-01-2007, 09:00 AM
Don't think it just applies to guys only, it takes both hands to clap. Last i heard from some radio, singapore even have some swinger clubs that are open to only members where they exchange partners for one night.

Yup, i totally agree with you. I don't that only happens in singapore. I am not suprised there are such activities in Malaysia too!

rachellee
25-01-2007, 11:02 AM
that means you doesn't mind your gf / wife looking for ONS. Am i right mr termibait and perceval?

Sugarfree
25-01-2007, 11:06 AM
that means you doesn't mind your gf / wife looking for ONS. Am i right mr termibait and perceval?I think what they're trying to say is that it's gotta be 2-way traffic. Both must agree or no deal! :D

rachellee
25-01-2007, 11:15 AM
ya. I know. but i just wanted to know is that both of them dont mind if their partner looking for ONS?

Sugarfree
25-01-2007, 11:27 AM
Ok, ok. That I wudn't know. ;) Sorry, Perceval & Termibait, can't help you there. You are on your own now. :p

sakaibear
25-01-2007, 11:29 AM
are u guys serious??? swapping partners?? i mean i cannot hold the fact that anyone else is with my girl for intercourse purposes. i would personally skin him alive!

Sasha
25-01-2007, 11:37 AM
Swingers and ONS differ quite a bit, swingers are couples based. This would be moving out of topic though since this thread is about ONS.

Anyhow, if you and your partner aren't up to it, then the swingers scene just isn't going to be your thing. It's a very different way of thinking.

Sugarfree
25-01-2007, 12:08 PM
Yup, like I said, both sides must agree & both partners must be participating. Otherwise, it's just no go.

Firefly
25-01-2007, 12:08 PM
hi ya sasha...wanna ONS with me?? ;)

Sugarfree
25-01-2007, 12:18 PM
:-- O

Firefly
25-01-2007, 12:22 PM
hehehehe..sugarfree,wanna join? make it an orgy!!!

rachellee
25-01-2007, 12:28 PM
disgusting..... :eek:

mimosa
25-01-2007, 12:32 PM
:eek: :eek: :eek: Uncle Firefly, hormones bursting? Your firefly light must be burning bright. :p

Sugarfree
25-01-2007, 01:00 PM
hehehehe..sugarfree,wanna join? make it an orgy!!!Whoaaa..wait a minute, Firefly. :D I'm Mr.Sugar and you're Mr. Firefly, I reckon, right. That'd be a no go la. Where can? Lost your nuts, ah, you? Hehehehehe... :D I know, I know, there's a female in there, but 2 naked males in the same room is simply too disgusting, as Rachel has pointed out. I'll have to pass, matey. :D :D

(Just teasing only, of course. (In very affirmative voice) I'm the most righteous person in these parts. One woman man, that's what I am. No two ways about it. I tell my girfriend..wait, wife..errr..girlfriend...wait..oh, whatever, and you'll know! She'll whack your head! :p :D)

Sasha
25-01-2007, 01:18 PM
hi ya sasha...wanna ONS with me?? ;)

Firefly my dear, from what I know, you are too decent to be going for ONSs, so don't bother trying to ask me. You aren't into such things. :)

kress
25-01-2007, 01:24 PM
hehehehe..sugarfree,wanna join? make it an orgy!!!

ooooh oooh me three me three :D

Sugarfree
25-01-2007, 01:31 PM
Firefly my dear, from what I know, you are too decent to be going for ONSs, so don't bother trying to ask me. You aren't into such things. :)Whoaaaa...mind reader, what about me? Think I'm into this kinda thing? :p

Sasha
25-01-2007, 01:38 PM
Sugarfree... You're all talk only. A ONS might happen for you.. but it probably would be under the influence of a lot of booze. As for swinging.. hahahhah.. u wouldnt do it.

rachellee
25-01-2007, 02:08 PM
Honestly, I beg not many ppl can accept swingers.

ONS, i admit that ppl around me (especially guys) really get into it. Maybe gals do but no gals want to share this around right?

termibait
25-01-2007, 04:01 PM
Honestly, I beg not many ppl can accept swingers.

ONS, i admit that ppl around me (especially guys) really get into it. Maybe gals do but no gals want to share this around right?

if girls share this around, they will be very busy! All the bees will fly toward them!

Firefly
26-01-2007, 08:57 AM
:mad: How did she know!!!! :confused:
oh sugarfree = bloke...come to think of it...won't work right?
ok kress..firefly is out. All yours to chat up. Just post some juicy details here for us....but then again.. this is a community forum...juicy stuff like that cannot post up, got minors here as well plus the farmer may send all of us to the plantation. hehehehehe...

Sugarfree
26-01-2007, 11:02 AM
...ok kress..firefly is out. All yours to chat up. Just post some juicy details here for us....but then again.. this is a community forum...juicy stuff like that cannot post up, got minors here as well plus the farmer may send all of us to the plantation.Thinking out aloud here, perhaps it's a good idea to create a password protected adult section for consenting adults to exchange views & stuff deemed too sensitive to minors? :)

Sugarfree
26-01-2007, 11:11 AM
oh sugarfree = bloke...come to think of it...won't work right? Yup, glad you cummed to your senses, Firefly. hehehehehe. :D :D Having said that, it doesn't mean you have to stop chasing your dreams. Just ensure that you're the only male around when it materializes! ;) I'll say no more, lest Bananaman is within earshot. :D

Firefly
26-01-2007, 11:46 AM
hehehe sugarfree...sasha knows I will chicken out. firefly = NATO...full of hot air.

Adult section.....na. not in a public forum. maybe someone start a private yahoo chat group...then invite us there.

Sugarfree
26-01-2007, 11:54 AM
Sugarfree...As for swinging.. hahahhah.. u wouldnt do it.Sasha is all-knowing, ain't she? Sasha. Let's meet up. I want you to tell me all about my future. ;)

Firefly
26-01-2007, 11:58 AM
forget it sugarfree...have been trying to get sasha out for the last 1 year.

rachellee
26-01-2007, 12:17 PM
hey hey hey!!!!! really out of topic already.... This is not discussion about ONS anymore... it's "what's the way to ask SASHA out for dating???" ehhehe... :p

Sugarfree
26-01-2007, 12:29 PM
forget it sugarfree...have been trying to get sasha out for the last 1 year.So, Sasha is all talk no action oso! Hehehehe... :p

Think we can make it a "triangular" date? :D

Sugarfree
26-01-2007, 12:35 PM
hey hey hey!!!!! really out of topic already.... This is not discussion about ONS anymore... it's "what's the way to ask SASHA out for dating???" ehhehe... :pWhat if...just a "what if"...it eventually leads to a ONS, would we still be out of topic?

...kikikikikkkkikiki... :p ;)

Firefly
26-01-2007, 01:10 PM
rachel want's to make it a foursome? ... :D

CCY
26-01-2007, 01:12 PM
Oh gosh....more bananas would be sticking out here....:D

Firefly
26-01-2007, 01:20 PM
YIKES!!!!....ccy, wanna make it a groupie?? :D

rachellee
26-01-2007, 02:01 PM
:p

nope thanks. As i said before, it's disgusting.. :D

Sugarfree
26-01-2007, 02:06 PM
That's it....you're all hereby sentenced to hard labour at Banana Plantation until further notice. :p

Firefly
26-01-2007, 03:35 PM
Hey sugarfree...NATO lah...What did you do to get a hard labor sentence??

kwchang
26-01-2007, 11:01 PM
sugarfree posted a link to an adult website in another thread. Next time I will throw away the keys.

Firefly
26-01-2007, 11:35 PM
can play play with sa... or not?...NATO all the time only, can?

Sasha
27-01-2007, 03:46 PM
Oh Wow... Sasha being accused of all talk and no action just like Sugarfree? When are you making your appearance at the TT gatherings, Sugarfree? My appearance might be too much for everyone to handle.

Firefly
27-01-2007, 08:09 PM
Not you sasha...me = NATO. You know that already. As of now, me very busy. Will not be attending any TT until after CNY. So earliest TT that I could attend would most likely be in April. :( When will you be appearing?

Sasha
27-01-2007, 09:30 PM
Extremely long work hours are keeping Sasha away from socializing much. There are spurts or very busy work moments and then some days of relaxation. I think it will be a long while before Sasha makes an appearance.

kress
27-01-2007, 11:40 PM
some days of relaxation.

and they are indeed relaxing are they not? :D

Sasha
28-01-2007, 10:30 AM
:) yup! We need to hang out more often, Kressy.

Sugarfree
29-01-2007, 09:59 AM
When are you making your appearance at the TT gatherings, Sugarfree? My appearance might be too much for everyone to handle.We'll see what happens... ;)

Firefly
29-01-2007, 10:00 AM
kress..don't keep sasha all to yourself. Share share...ok?

kress
29-01-2007, 10:12 AM
cannot la... i'm making full use of her..... :D

Sugarfree
29-01-2007, 11:14 AM
cannot la... i'm making full use of her..... :Dnext question (you knew this was cumming, right?): to do what? :p

kress
29-01-2007, 11:48 AM
to do what? why to make her clean my house and cook for me of course.. :p

Sugarfree
29-01-2007, 09:25 PM
We have established one thing so far. Sasha is taken.

Ok, next! :p

Sasha
29-01-2007, 10:41 PM
sasha is taken?? Hmm... how come sasha doesnt know about it? hmmm... tell me who the lucky bloke is, k? Besides Kressy, that is.

Sugarfree
29-01-2007, 11:14 PM
sasha is taken?? Hmm... how come sasha doesnt know about it? hmmm... tell me who the lucky bloke is, k? Besides Kressy, that is.Whoaaaa....I'm speechless...

(few seconds later)

Isn't there supposed to be only one lucky chap? ;)

Sasha
29-01-2007, 11:17 PM
What? And deny the rest of the sea of fishes a good time? U kidding me, right?

kress
29-01-2007, 11:18 PM
variety is the spice of life after all.. :p

Sugarfree
30-01-2007, 12:06 AM
variety is the spice of life after all.. :pNow we are talking! ;)

Sugarfree
30-01-2007, 12:08 AM
What? And deny the rest of the sea of fishes a good time? U kidding me, right?I wasn't kidding you. I was checking to see how you think. And I must say, I am impressed. ;)

Firefly
30-01-2007, 09:29 AM
ooohhh...this is getting spicy... :eek: