chin_wan
13-06-2006, 07:59 PM
I read this somewhere and find it interesting topic for discussion...
This is a little analytical in it's approach, so please don't react to what I am about to write immediately, pleas consider it first.
So many times, as we are all aware, the nice, attentive males will complain about their lack of success with the opposite sex. Whilst I do not provide any advice for them in particluar, I think I can explain this from an evolutionary point of view.
Okay, forget about all your ideas and theories, we have millions of years of evolution programmed into us. And when we were living in caves, the roles of men and women made a whole lot more sense. Regardless of your new modern theories, be it feminism or sensitive male orientation, your ideas are piffel compared to a million years of natural selection, especially considering the 'enlightenment' has only been around for a couple of hundred at the most.
I want a guy who will just ignore me. Picture this, a male caveman surveying his horizon for potential threats or predators, scans the environment, and sees his woman playing with her child. He feels a rush of sensitive male sentimentality and becomes quite absorbed in this display. He starts to marvel at the mother child interaction, philosophically pondering it and feeling all fuzzy inside, whilst loosing track of time. BAM. She's attacked and eaten by a wolf which he had failed to spot sneaking up on her while he was sensitively enjoying the warm interaction of mother with child.
Men have just been moulded to take the short term but broad perspective on the environment, whilst women are more inclined to very focused but long term perspectives. So regardless of intellectual arguments, it makes sense for a woman to feel more secure with a guy who is ignoring her subtlties than a guy who is sensitive and intensely involved in every little word she might be saying.
Learn to ignore her (not completely, but just a little). Hey, it sucks, maybe, but nature is the way it is for a reason, even if that reason doesn't agree with the way you'd like things to be, or the way you've come to believe they should be.
Thoughts?
This is a little analytical in it's approach, so please don't react to what I am about to write immediately, pleas consider it first.
So many times, as we are all aware, the nice, attentive males will complain about their lack of success with the opposite sex. Whilst I do not provide any advice for them in particluar, I think I can explain this from an evolutionary point of view.
Okay, forget about all your ideas and theories, we have millions of years of evolution programmed into us. And when we were living in caves, the roles of men and women made a whole lot more sense. Regardless of your new modern theories, be it feminism or sensitive male orientation, your ideas are piffel compared to a million years of natural selection, especially considering the 'enlightenment' has only been around for a couple of hundred at the most.
I want a guy who will just ignore me. Picture this, a male caveman surveying his horizon for potential threats or predators, scans the environment, and sees his woman playing with her child. He feels a rush of sensitive male sentimentality and becomes quite absorbed in this display. He starts to marvel at the mother child interaction, philosophically pondering it and feeling all fuzzy inside, whilst loosing track of time. BAM. She's attacked and eaten by a wolf which he had failed to spot sneaking up on her while he was sensitively enjoying the warm interaction of mother with child.
Men have just been moulded to take the short term but broad perspective on the environment, whilst women are more inclined to very focused but long term perspectives. So regardless of intellectual arguments, it makes sense for a woman to feel more secure with a guy who is ignoring her subtlties than a guy who is sensitive and intensely involved in every little word she might be saying.
Learn to ignore her (not completely, but just a little). Hey, it sucks, maybe, but nature is the way it is for a reason, even if that reason doesn't agree with the way you'd like things to be, or the way you've come to believe they should be.
Thoughts?