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rabbiteeth84
23-12-2005, 11:11 AM
while you are walking along the street theres always some dumb ass catcalling you/indian lorry driver licking their tongue at you/staring at you like they cant wait to get into your pants. have you gals even have tis "wonderful" experience before?

ameer shah
23-12-2005, 11:16 AM
why bother, just walk off, ......unless if its your match

trex92
23-12-2005, 12:57 PM
*whistle* rabbiteeth84 must be really hot.... :D : D jk!

Hmmm, i am guy and what u described happened to me once. I was at a production floor doing stock count when some of the female operators did that. I must say it was a very unnerving experience for a guy :D :D :D

Timo
23-12-2005, 01:42 PM
I've got that on a number of occasions before - I'm male by the way - I get the whistles from the male cross dressers! Talk about unnerving!

trex92
23-12-2005, 02:20 PM
I've got that on a number of occasions before - I'm male by the way - I get the whistles from the male cross dressers! Talk about unnerving!

:D :D :D thats much worse than mine... muahahah

pcyeoh
23-12-2005, 02:25 PM
I've got that on a number of occasions before - I'm male by the way - I get the whistles from the male cross dressers! Talk about unnerving!
Timo, that definitely is NOT me. Just want to clarify cos you might think those male cross dressers could be me lah.

trex92
23-12-2005, 02:39 PM
Timo, that definitely is NOT me. Just want to clarify cos you might think those male cross dressers could be me lah.

:D :D why so fast clarify pcyeoh?

chrisbachang
23-12-2005, 02:43 PM
My girlfriend got whistled at all the time, even when she was with me. Some of them even passed rude and sexist remarks. I was too chickened to stare back or retort at the offending parties. Now she is seriously thinking of leaving me.

jack10dd
23-12-2005, 04:39 PM
/indian lorry driver ???


is this common , wake up ler bro..........why generalise??

EricK
23-12-2005, 04:48 PM
My girlfriend got whistled at all the time, even when she was with me. Some of them even passed rude and sexist remarks. I was too chickened to stare back or retort at the offending parties. Now she is seriously thinking of leaving me.

I'm sorry to hear this but did u read about the guy who castigated some mat rempits who disturbed his girl companion and got stabbed and bled to death in cheras? Could some 1 find the link to the story please post it here and let your gf read...

Loving your gf doesnt' mean showing macho in front of other people especially in this uncertain times.. u never know the background of other people...

ginaphan
23-12-2005, 05:01 PM
Just ignore them lah.

Their behaviour is because they need to account for their 'short' fallings.

patrick
23-12-2005, 05:11 PM
Ha haha....that too reminds me of the time I was hospitalised for a minor ailment. There was this lady colleague whom I guessed had a crush on me. But I didnt know how bad it was until then. She kept hanging around my hospital bed until ....phew...panic man! Especially when I knew my othe half would be visiting me! Ha ha...Anyway...without going into details.....all ended amicably well.... ;-)

rabbiteeth84
23-12-2005, 05:19 PM
maybe i should put up a thread: what will you do if your gf/bf get verbally abuse/eyeballing?

seriously, every time when i am alone/with my bf along on the street, there will always be some dumbo stripping you with your naked eyes. i always discuss tis with my gf, and theres even one time my friend stick up her middle finger to no avail. i dun expect my bf to fight back, really, theres nothing to fight. you can pass comment to me, i can also pass mine, but i won stoop so low to their level.

i am not generalising people, but seriously 9/10 indian lorry driver will do tis. haha. theres one time i was rushing in front of summit to catch my bus then the man who walking towards saying : "wah, you are so hot" in the broad day light and i am in a state of not a state to talk about from rushing. really, they never look at face, as long as you are woman. haha

mon
23-12-2005, 05:21 PM
She kept hanging around my hospital bed until ....phew...panic man!)

Ah Pat, must be those shorts again la :p

By the way, I don't get whistled at much, just long stares like they wanna eat me up or something. Hate it most when the guys are with their kids or wives/gfs..bums.

Anyway, that was decades ago. When Mon was still young and slim. What I'd do? Stare back sometimes..the ANGRY stare! or just ignore when they looked like hooligans.

patrick
23-12-2005, 06:05 PM
Aiyah...just take it as a compliment lah! I know it's rude to stare but there have been times when I was equally guilty. In sheer admiration of beauties to behold, I have a few times unconsciously 'stared' at such astounding creations of God. So, as you can see, sometimes man really mean no harm at all. Just pure admiration and adulation. Or if you ladies prefer, just tell yourself 'Fools rush in!"

KelvC
23-12-2005, 11:29 PM
Aiyah...just take it as a compliment lah! I know it's rude to stare but there have been times when I was equally guilty. In sheer admiration of beauties to behold, I have a few times unconsciously 'stared' at such astounding creations of God. So, as you can see, sometimes man really mean no harm at all. Just pure admiration and adulation. Or if you ladies prefer, just tell yourself 'Fools rush in!"
Totally agreed! Sometimes found meself staring with marvel at God's creation, however whistling and lewd remarks are totally out of line.

As for the Cheras case, guys no need to be a (or shoulder the expectation of a) heroes. You'll never know anyone has a sickle (or any other probable weapons nearby) just as the Cheras case. Just walk away to see tomorrow's dawn and it is worth your while. Ladies, you don't want to live your life knowing your loveone could have lived if you just pull him away and move on.

Ultimately, just walk away.

Pets=Friends
24-12-2005, 09:57 AM
Aiyah...just take it as a compliment lah! I know it's rude to stare but there have been times when I was equally guilty. In sheer admiration of beauties to behold, I have a few times unconsciously 'stared' at such astounding creations of God. So, as you can see, sometimes man really mean no harm at all.
Women stare at other women too and NO, not to pass judgemental comments or gossip about their clothes. I have a thing for strong facial structures and have been caught staring at a number of colleagues and friends. I'm sure they feel really uncomfortable with the staring but please its a compliment.

As for lorry drivers and lewd remarks, the key is to walk really fast and block out whatever obscene talk, they just want the attention. Its hot and boring in the lorry and they're stuck in traffic. You know how air is transparent, just ignore it.

patwon
24-12-2005, 04:45 PM
Blank stare is better than walk pass without even notice the other human.Even ants can see EYE TO EYE with fellow ants. :)

yvonnefoong
24-12-2005, 05:17 PM
You know what, if you walk staring at people the same way, but with an extra smile plastered on your face, you won't be passed as rude, but friendly!

patrick
24-12-2005, 05:48 PM
You know what, if you walk staring at people the same way, but with an extra smile plastered on your face, you won't be passed as rude, but friendly!

Thanks Yvonne...next time we cant help but stare, must remember to wear a smile! ll But ladies, do take KelvC's advice about "Just walk away to see tomorrow's dawn and it is worth your while. Ladies, you don't want to live your life knowing your loveone could have lived if you just pull him away and move on". It's a good one. Same principle when I was learning TKD, my instructor always reminded us.....the best defence is ...get away if you can.

satigue
25-12-2005, 10:32 AM
remember tht uni student from UK who came back to Msia for holidays who got beaten up by a gang in Sri hartamas a year ago? he couldn't resist ppl disturbing his Gf, so he ended up losing his life.
so the best thing to do is just ignore them & walk away.

chrisbachang
25-12-2005, 04:23 PM
So your advice is to be a coward and live (without my girlfriend)?

simon_tan
25-12-2005, 04:52 PM
Chris the bachang (hungry already), if she (your g/f) wants you to, what may amount to risking your life over wolf whistles - please find another g/f. Life is too short. Walk quickly, with or without your present g/f.

"Be a man..." (peter russell)

kevin23
25-12-2005, 06:46 PM
sometimes i ADMIRE them too...juz looking around,but with a gf muz b more careful! =)

GreenBug
26-12-2005, 12:47 AM
Patrick is right, ladies.... take it as a compliment and do nothing else.

And Chrisbacang, if your gf wants to leave you because you did nothing to "defend or protect" her when she is whistled at, let her go. She's not matured enough and would one day have you killed by a group of guys whistling at her....

And like Patrick, I also stare at those "Wonderful God's Creations" that always seem to be at either CoffeeZone in Gadong, Bandar Seri Begawan.... aiyoh, so pretty lah... :D

EdRoZeN
26-12-2005, 03:47 PM
What I think is that staring is not a problem, it's the whistling and the wolf-cry.

It's the whistling that is rude.

*Budiman here I come!:D*

AllUrban
26-12-2005, 04:31 PM
while you are walking along the street theres always some dumb ass catcalling you/staring at you like they cant wait to get into your pants. have you gals even have tis "wonderful" experience before?

Funny thing, this takes us back to the issues of sexuality in Malaysia....

When people know less about sex, then they go with instinct and instinct says it's ok to stare, grab, grope, etc. if you can get away with it. Media culture tells us to "live in the moment," "do what you feel," and search for "satisfaction." Then, there is all of the sexual imagery we see everywhere, but dont talk about properly.

Sad and wrong. :(

I have been dealing with more comments and ugly stares than I care for, from men and women, of all races...gf says its because I'm handsome and mat salleh...but that's no excuse.

The best response...dont ignore, dont get angry...just say very simply "staring is rude" and then walk away with your head high.

Ps. can someone translate "staring is rude" into B. Malaysia for me. I think it will be another useful phrase to learn.

GreenBug
26-12-2005, 05:00 PM
What I think is that staring is not a problem, it's the whistling and the wolf-cry.Errr Endrozen, I have heard of whistles and/or wolf-whistles, but wolf-cry? You mean people do the "Arhoooooooooooooo.." thingy at girls..... :D

orchipalar
26-12-2005, 05:10 PM
Funny thing,

Ps. can someone translate "staring is rude" into B. Malaysia for me. I think it will be another useful phrase to learn.Err...should be "sila jangan menjeling jeling...or sila jangan pandang(look or see) dengan mata menjuling(staring)..."

Err...a bit complicated...perhaps better to just smile n look else where... :)

EdRoZeN
26-12-2005, 11:32 PM
Arhooooo is for extremists, GreenBug :D:D:D

EricK
27-12-2005, 11:58 AM
So your advice is to be a coward and live (without my girlfriend)?

i dont think she's much of a gf if she feels her dignity is more more important than your safety... do you want to be with a girl whose places pride is paramount...

anway i get the feeling that both of you are stil young and as such.. your thinking may not be matured yet.. i'm sorry if u feel that i am talking down on you.. but in the end .. does it really matter she gets wolf whistled?

chrisbachang
27-12-2005, 12:04 PM
There is an old Chinese saying that a coward dies many deaths. A man cannot be walking away from situations all his life. There will come a time when he has to make a stand - not so much for his girlfriend but for himself and what it takes to be a human being. Is this foolish? Perhaps.

aRwEn
27-12-2005, 12:51 PM
hmm.... i hav encounterd diz as well.... not juz wn alone, but even if im wit my bf or even my younger brother, wud u believ it??!! :o

once, wn i went out wit my bro 2 buy sumthin at a shoppin ctr.... i din realize dat there wuz a guy leerin at me whilst i wuz checkin out sum stuff fr thoz large containerz dat they hav out durin d salez .... but my bro did notice n he pulled me by d arm n dragged me off.... n i wuz wonderin wat d hurry wuz.... until later, he told me..... i oso noticed he wuz glarin daggerz at sum guy whilst we were walkin off.... actuali, he luked like he wanted 2 bash d guy up but fortunately, he restraind himself....

hmm... n dat wuz my hot-temperd 6'3" younger bro too!!

but anywiz, i thk d best response wud b 2 juz ignore n walk off lerr.... it iz a waste of time gettin in2 a fight, not 2 mention dangerouz as well, cuz dunno wat mite happen....



;)

EricK
27-12-2005, 01:24 PM
There is an old Chinese saying that a coward dies many deaths. A man cannot be walking away from situations all his life. There will come a time when he has to make a stand - not so much for his girlfriend but for himself and what it takes to be a human being. Is this foolish? Perhaps.

There is a time and place to make your stand. You just have to choose your fight.... and if you choose to fight somebody who is a nobody its up to you.. u dont need our advise here ...

chrisbachang
27-12-2005, 01:30 PM
There is a time and place to make your stand. You just have to choose your fight.... and if you choose to fight somebody who is a nobody its up to you.. u dont need our advise here ...

You fail to see the point I am making. There will come a time when a man has to make a stand. You can turn away if the offending party just leers and whistles at your girlfriend. Are you going to turn away when he makes a physical grab at your girlfriend? I am stating that example as the next incremental step. There can be many incremental steps to come. Thus at which incremental step would you decide to fight (if at all because the offending party would still beat the hell out of you?). And more often than not, the offending party is 'somebody who is a nobody' to you.

It is walking a very thin line between cowardice and good sense in such situations of provocation.

rabbiteeth84
27-12-2005, 02:10 PM
i think guys know guys better. what sort of guy would let out lecherous comment to a gal he dun know?

from my point of view, in short, he is sexually/physically disabled.

AllUrban
27-12-2005, 03:51 PM
i think guys know guys better. what sort of guy would let out lecherous comment to a gal he dun know?

from my point of view, in short, he is sexually/physically disabled.

More likely, just ignorant about appropriate behaviour related to sexuality.

orchipalar
27-12-2005, 03:59 PM
Err...it has happened to Orchi before in public places...especially in departmental stores or supermarkets...women folks would stare or giggle at Orchi...whenever Orchi leans forward to attend to the stuffs in the cart...

Ahem...should Orchi conclude that they were somewhat disabled or sicked?...hehe...:D

baby
27-12-2005, 06:25 PM
..women folks would stare or giggle at Orchi...whenever Orchi leans forward to attend to the stuffs in the cart...



Woow..Orchipalar you must be a swell guy :D Tall, dark and handsome perhaps?
Yes, I could be one of those who had stared and wink-winked at you. Giggle no lar, if I'm alone. With a group of girlfriends..ah..you'd better run quick!!

Just kidding.. :D

orchipalar
27-12-2005, 07:34 PM
Woow..Orchipalar you must be a swell guy :D Tall, dark and handsome perhaps?
Yes, I could be one of those who had stared and wink-winked at you. Giggle no lar, if I'm alone. With a group of girlfriends..ah..you'd better run quick!!

Just kidding.. :DErr...hehe...a bit off topic liao...dear Baby:)...on the contrary...you may have to reconsider doing those things...Orchi is neither tall...nor handsome....but dark perhaps...n certainly short n ugly...with so big of a belly that...when Orchi puts the head down...Orchi could NOT even see own 2 n a quarter feet...pass the spot where Orchi is standing...:D

baby
27-12-2005, 08:32 PM
Orchi is neither tall...nor handsome....but dark perhaps...n certainly short n ugly...with so big of a belly that...when Orchi puts the head down...Orchi could NOT even see own 2 n a quarter feet...

Don't bluff :D We're definitely NOT off-topic. Still in the topic of gals..encountering..any situation..in this case, the 3rd kind. :D :D :D

LMei
28-12-2005, 02:33 PM
What can we do in this kind of situation? Once had this guy who was openly staring at me. And he's not those kind who pretends to look away when you notice him or glance his way. I was with my bf then and told him about it. And he ask me "So? What you want me to do?"

I was shocked with that kind of question initially. But what do you expect us to feel. Having a guy with us normally suppose to make us feel 'safe'. However, since you can't expect him to tell the starer off or anything more than that... the worry being he might get beaten up or worse killed. You feel just as frustrated. Also you also get the impression that he cares more of himself than his gf being stared at.

Sometimes, I think it's every girl's secret wish that their guy will stand up for them. Then of course, it's our duty to pull them back being concern for their well being. But when they put their own concerns first... you kinda feel... abandoned?

So girls... I guess we have to tolerate this 'male' behaviour. There doesn't seem to be anything you can do with the stares n wolf whistles, nor can your male partner helps you feel any better or safer. Sometimes you get the feeling that you might as well be another girl and telling 'her', let's go somewhere safer in case this guy decides to start stalking you!

JackRyan1975
28-12-2005, 03:02 PM
When my gf (who is now my wife) got stared, normally at shopping malls, what I did was to look back at the chap with my trademark serious face. Even as we passed by the chap, I made it a point to look back, to put the point across that I have observed and profiled him so that he will think twice before trying anything funny.

chrisbachang
28-12-2005, 03:02 PM
LMei. Very well articulated. I agree with you absolutely.

Pets=Friends
28-12-2005, 03:17 PM
So girls... I guess we have to tolerate this 'male' behaviour. There doesn't seem to be anything you can do with the stares n wolf whistles, nor can your male partner helps you feel any better or safer. Sometimes you get the feeling that you might as well be another girl and telling 'her', let's go somewhere safer in case this guy decides to start stalking you!
I have to disagree, even though your male partner should not under any circumstances launch a full attack on the party at fault, he should at least assure you of his presence i.e. hold your hand, shield you from the stares by positioning you differently, put his arm around your waist, give you a peck on the head, any subliminal signs that read "look fellas, this girl is taken, i may not be as big as you but i will fight you if i have to".
Its the little things that matter guys, don't be a HERO :)

LMei
28-12-2005, 03:17 PM
LMei. Very well articulated. I agree with you absolutely.
Thanks. Guys, you may not have to go up to that fella and tell him off or do anything that might get yourself battered up... but at least show your indignation in front of your girl to show that at least you're upset as well on her behalf.

The worst you could do is tell her, do you read the papers on what happen to that guy who defended his gf? You want me to die ah?

Now doesn't that just sound.... so un-man? Sorry guys if I step on wrong toes :o

orchipalar
28-12-2005, 03:24 PM
LMei. Very well articulated. I agree with you absolutely.
My girlfriend got whistled at all the time, even when she was with me. Some of them even passed rude and sexist remarks. I was too chickened to stare back or retort at the offending parties. Now she is seriously thinking of leaving me.Err...so how would you decide you could deal with your current 'situation' with your 'galfriend' then...?

chrisbachang
28-12-2005, 03:40 PM
You would like to know, won't you? I am sorry. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. That is for my girlfriend and I to sort it out.

chrisbachang
28-12-2005, 03:46 PM
Thanks. Guys, you may not have to go up to that fella and tell him off or do anything that might get yourself battered up... but at least show your indignation in front of your girl to show that at least you're upset as well on her behalf.

The worst you could do is tell her, do you read the papers on what happen to that guy who defended his gf? You want me to die ah?

Now doesn't that just sound.... so un-man? Sorry guys if I step on wrong toes :o

Earlier I did mention that it is a very thin line between cowardice and good sense. That would have stepped on many wrong toes too! I agree absolutely with your viewpoints.

orchipalar
28-12-2005, 03:50 PM
My girlfriend got whistled at all the time, even when she was with me. Some of them even passed rude and sexist remarks. I was too chickened to stare back or retort at the offending parties. Now she is seriously thinking of leaving me.
So your advice is to be a coward and live (without my girlfriend)?
You would like to know, won't you? I am sorry. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. That is for my girlfriend and I to sort it out.Err...no apology whatsoever necessary...you of all the folks...should know what's right or what's not...to do openly or otherwise...

chrisbachang
28-12-2005, 03:53 PM
You and I have crossed swords before. This forum is big enough without us threading on each other. Kindly keep to your turf and we will get on just fine.

:D

EricK
28-12-2005, 03:54 PM
What can we do in this kind of situation? Once had this guy who was openly staring at me. And he's not those kind who pretends to look away when you notice him or glance his way. I was with my bf then and told him about it. And he ask me "So? What you want me to do?"

I was shocked with that kind of question initially. But what do you expect us to feel. Having a guy with us normally suppose to make us feel 'safe'. However, since you can't expect him to tell the starer off or anything more than that... the worry being he might get beaten up or worse killed. You feel just as frustrated. Also you also get the impression that he cares more of himself than his gf being stared at.

Sometimes, I think it's every girl's secret wish that their guy will stand up for them. Then of course, it's our duty to pull them back being concern for their well being. But when they put their own concerns first... you kinda feel... abandoned?

so guys should put on a little sandiwara eh.. :) maybe that should explain my lack of gf.. hehe.. I actually understand what u mean, girls just wanna feel protected right.. that the guy will stand up and defend the girls honour.. but can you tell me who is going to pull the lecherous guy back? some guys dont take a challenge very well.. know what i mean... its like u stare at me i'll beat you up... kinda situation..

i know it sounds like cowardice .. maybe it its... but having lost some 1 close to me recently.. this sort of thing feel frivolous to me... i guess life has just gotten more precious..

kress
28-12-2005, 03:57 PM
you don't have to always fight your way through... maybe you just block his line of sight ke... or you just reassure her, put your arm around her.... any girl who loves you will understand... besides if today one guy stares at her and you beat him up... then another day another guy stares at her then what? you beat him up again? if so you're going to be very busy man then...

DatinLawa
28-12-2005, 04:16 PM
What can we do in this kind of situation? Once had this guy who was openly staring at me. And he's not those kind who pretends to look away when you notice him or glance his way. I was with my bf then and told him about it. And he ask me "So? What you want me to do?"

I was shocked with that kind of question initially. But what do you expect us to feel. Having a guy with us normally suppose to make us feel 'safe'. However, since you can't expect him to tell the starer off or anything more than that... the worry being he might get beaten up or worse killed. You feel just as frustrated. Also you also get the impression that he cares more of himself than his gf being stared at.

Sometimes, I think it's every girl's secret wish that their guy will stand up for them. Then of course, it's our duty to pull them back being concern for their well being. But when they put their own concerns first... you kinda feel... abandoned?

So girls... I guess we have to tolerate this 'male' behaviour. There doesn't seem to be anything you can do with the stares n wolf whistles, nor can your male partner helps you feel any better or safer. Sometimes you get the feeling that you might as well be another girl and telling 'her', let's go somewhere safer in case this guy decides to start stalking you!

was reading this thread as entertainment until this point... no, i have to disagree with you LMei. not all gals are lack of self-confidence and need so much of security assurance from their bf. it's just a stare or wistle-blowing by some idiots you dunno and you expect you bf/hubby to stand-up for you, sometimes also mean risking their life?? alamak... no, no way! my hubby is hot-tempered and yes, he thinks he can kill a lion if he needs to... gosh, that's the last thing i want to hear from him. everytime when he is about to get angry at someone or wanna show finger to someone becoz some idiots did something stupid, i panic like hell and pulled him away immediately. i will be the one telling him "why bother to get angry at those idiots?" or "no, come on, you are not the same level with them, dun expect them to behave the way you want them to..." no way in my life time i would want him to fight for me for some silly reasons... i feel "safe" enough by having him around, no need the fight or stare back... i also told him, "if you go and fight him, then who's going to protect me if another of his fren is attacking me??" or "if you care so much about me, please dun get into any fight becoz you are risking your life and who's gonna take care of me if anything happens to you??"

gals, just ignore those idiots and please dun risk the life of your love ones for some "sense of security" that you are dreaming of... to me, there is no sense of security if he likes to fight for some tiny silly reasons...

aloy105
28-12-2005, 04:21 PM
how abt analising y gals gets wolf whistle, sexist remarks,rude remarks etc.
1.very pretty
2.dressed very sexy
3.dressed too sexy
4.dressed inappropriately.not fitting to her physical built
5.dressed for wrong occassion,,disco dressing at daytime


gal/bf reaction:
1.ignore n walk away.Just as tkd instructor says..best defence is to walk away n live another day,but be ready to run if need to
2. take it as a compliment,be positive n both hve a good laugh over the whole issue..hahaha
3.be calm,study the situation b4 aggressive reaction..y attack when u know it is sure lose situation..better remember any details n just make a police report for molest if there is physical contact
4.immediate aggressive reaction not only can mean more trouble/injuries to the bf but also the gal...so gals think twice b4 wanting yr bf to go on the offenssive

aloy105
28-12-2005, 04:30 PM
we dont need to react like gangsters. :mad: ......cannot stare,cannot pass comments, cannot accidently bump into, cannot whistle at....THAT also if WE are the ones these remarks are actually being directed at...maybe it is at somebody else...its just us too sensitive :D ....we need not go as low as those idiots passing whatever remarks ,,,just so long they do not come into physical contact,,,then maybe it a fight for yr life :cool:

kokomo
28-12-2005, 04:42 PM
aloy105, i agree wif ur remarks and your point here ..

if u're wif your partner on a date, should not be bothered by ppl around u blowing those whistle or anything .. aren't you suppose to be concentrating on your partner rather than lookin' around whether ppl stare at u o not ?

as a matter in fact , guys should also be on a alert o on a lookout for your surroundings .. and if u think your gf / wife is too pretty to be on a crowded place then bring them somewhere less crowd / non at all so u can rest assure that there won't be any wolf calling around u ..

gnehkgnep
28-12-2005, 05:07 PM
haha......very nice comments......
me on the other hand.....terbalik case........usually my G will get very fast hot temper.......i have to look serious and angry at her to stop her from blowing her top...... :)

Got one time......one fat and big size guy at Jusco Bukit Raja Klang push his trolley and knock her bum......she got so angry and curse the guy directly and &*@# that her gf got him also have to ham sam sen (cry three times)......and that guy nearly want to wallop her....so I just try to break them off and faster led her to somewhere far.....else she kena hentam.......I definitely will grab a weapon and slaughter that guy......... :mad: .......lucky thing I hold my composure......else all hell break loose......and the whole jusco will be tear down by me...........damn celaka jusco guard........when i need them to assist.....they just seem to buat bodoh and staring like got free show to watch........si kui kiah :mad:

ank345
28-12-2005, 05:16 PM
You and I have crossed swords before. This forum is big enough without us threading on each other. Kindly keep to your turf and we will get on just fine.

:D

I would be very interested to know that under which ' Nick ' you have 'Cross sword' with Orchi before... ?? :rolleyes:

kokomo
28-12-2005, 05:21 PM
haha......very nice comments......
me on the other hand.....terbalik case........usually my G will get very fast hot temper.......i have to look serious and angry at her to stop her from blowing her top...... :)

Got one time......one fat and big size guy at Jusco Bukit Raja Klang push his trolley and knock her bum......she got so angry and curse the guy directly and &*@# that her gf got him also have to ham sam sen (cry three times)......and that guy nearly want to wallop her....so I just try to break them off and faster led her to somewhere far.....else she kena hentam.......I definitely will grab a weapon and slaughter that guy......... :mad: .......lucky thing I hold my composure......else all hell break loose......and the whole jusco will be tear down by me...........damn celaka jusco guard........when i need them to assist.....they just seem to buat bodoh and staring like got free show to watch........si kui kiah :mad:

cool man !! cool !!! :cool: evrything is over now .. we're moving towards year 2006 now ... forget the past and carry on wif ourselves ya .. ;)

gnehkgnep
28-12-2005, 05:41 PM
I would be very interested to know that under which ' Nick ' you have 'Cross sword' with Orchi before... ?? :rolleyes:

Remember this Why we don't marry the person we love most (http://www.usj.com.my/bulletin/upload/showthread.php?p=89961#post89961)

but.....i still don't understand.....when did orchi cross-sword with bachang?? :confused: .......we have some disagreement with kpc......then bachang come in n give his comments......now i m getting confuse.....are they the same person?? kpc = chrisbachang :p

Just some things to ponder b4 year 2005 end :rolleyes:

aloy105
28-12-2005, 05:49 PM
kokomo, ur ight.. when we are on a date we shd be concentrating on her then on others.oogling,,whistling,,,maybe we shd just take it as a compliment,, unless it is our date overdress/ or' dess to kill' n am walking/parading around

will men oogle/stare/whistle at ugly gals!!!! :p OR will women oogle/stare/pass comments at ugly men???

so long as..SEE NO TOUCH... i think we shd just ignore or think positively n enjoy the attention showered :D

kwchang
28-12-2005, 05:56 PM
.....when did orchi cross-sword with bachang?...
Ignore this side-track please. I am trying to get the parties concerned to resolve the matter offline. This is a matter way beyond some of your existance on this Forum and I hate resurrecting the buried.

Pets=Friends
29-12-2005, 10:29 AM
haha......very nice comments......
me on the other hand.....terbalik case........usually my G will get very fast hot temper.......i have to look serious and angry at her to stop her from blowing her top...... :)

Got one time......one fat and big size guy at Jusco Bukit Raja Klang push his trolley and knock her bum......she got so angry and curse the guy directly and &*@# that her gf got him also have to ham sam sen (cry three times)......and that guy nearly want to wallop her....so I just try to break them off and faster led her to somewhere far.....
Oh my, side effects of SKII ;). Ideally, beautiful girl like your G should have a beautiful temperament. Bad hair day or PMS? Relaxlah, not worth it. Frowning and cursing increases ageing lines/wrinkles. Besides drawing attention to oneself like that "very the malulah".

gnehkgnep
29-12-2005, 12:14 PM
Oh my, side effects of SKII ;). Ideally, beautiful girl like your G should have a beautiful temperament. Bad hair day or PMS? Relaxlah, not worth it. Frowning and cursing increases ageing lines/wrinkles. Besides drawing attention to oneself like that "very the malulah".

haha....pets.....if someone purposely knock u with his trolley......can u provide a good suggestion to avoid confrontation? hehe :D

1. Act donno...duh....let him continue with his antic.....while u queue up to pay your groceries.....ain't this harassment :confused:
2. Stare at him.....and he stare back at u....with an even more lan si face :(
3. U scold him and he scold u back.....u accused him but he in denial mode :eek:
4. U inform the security but he left b4 the security intervene :rolleyes:

So how ar????

Pets=Friends
29-12-2005, 01:44 PM
haha....pets.....if someone purposely knock u with his trolley......can u provide a good suggestion to avoid confrontation? hehe :D

Actually i dunno la, your G is only being human but then you have analise why would anybody knock her with their trolley on purpose unless they are mentally disturbed. If so, we don't normally cari pasal with the town nutcase :) Happy New Year to you pengkheng.

gnehkgnep
29-12-2005, 02:44 PM
Actually i dunno la, your G is only being human but then you have analise why would anybody knock her with their trolley on purpose unless they are mentally disturbed. If so, we don't normally cari pasal with the town nutcase :) Happy New Year to you pengkheng.

hahaha....lol.....happy new year too to u.....just in my opinion that guy kinda wanna rush.....and he keep pushing the trolley and kena my G few times which was the reason for her to get emotional........

I was bz paying the bill so kinda did not notice this idiot harassing my G......n unable to determine what happen......so just usher her away to avoid all the shouting...... ;)

aRwEn
29-12-2005, 04:10 PM
When my gf (who is now my wife) got stared, normally at shopping malls, what I did was to look back at the chap with my trademark serious face. Even as we passed by the chap, I made it a point to look back, to put the point across that I have observed and profiled him so that he will think twice before trying anything funny.


I have to disagree, even though your male partner should not under any circumstances launch a full attack on the party at fault, he should at least assure you of his presence i.e. hold your hand, shield you from the stares by positioning you differently, put his arm around your waist, give you a peck on the head, any subliminal signs that read "look fellas, this girl is taken, i may not be as big as you but i will fight you if i have to".
Its the little things that matter guys, don't be a HERO :)

good pointz.... datz wat my bf doez as well.... :)

tupai
29-12-2005, 06:28 PM
DUH blur lato is still try to define 'staring' versus 'eyeing for a long time' versus 'looking at u-kid' but i do understand that striping the sweet young thing with the eyes, leering, and all not so pleasant funny face thingy is a rude thing to do. ANd most men (except the ill mannered/sexually deprived, loco) do not do that sorta things.

On my bright side of the planet, I also stare at pretty girls. But only just momentarily. I look away then steal another longer than necessary 'stare'...
Heck!I even stare at paintings for too long a time...sampai legs also got cramps!

Girls also stare at pretty girls...and if it was not an envious green-eyed jealous stare, whats the big deal?

Short of wearing the purdah/burkha, and if u were a pretty face girl, expect to be admire/look/stare/leer at...if u are one ugly mug like me, u probably have to pay people to stare at you.

But when physical contact was made e.g. trolley repeatedly colliding with MY gf's derriere...that troley driver would most probably be dead or now having a face that his mum cannot even recognised and did I also mention that he will not be able to see anymore, let alone stare???

Me? If he was dead,? I will be in for 5 yrs suspended sentence on grd of self defence agst dangerous weapon :p If he got a new mug face? I will be still shopping at the same supermart with my beautiful gf :D

yang amat berjeling lato tupai

Timo
29-12-2005, 07:50 PM
Glad to see violence and retaliation is rampant amongst what seems to be an educated bunch of people.

All I can say is thank goodness for women like DatinLawa (I assume you are a woman). The world needs more confident, cool headed women. What we do NOT need more is wimpy-damsels-in-distress calling on all-too-keen-chest-beating gorillas in shopping malls. They belong in the far end sections of cheap corner lot bookshops under the header 'romance novels'.

tupai
29-12-2005, 09:47 PM
selamat berjeling m'sia, truly asia; where kong is still king and he still swipes starers, bad drivers, genteel pussy-footing wimps, chest-thumpin' idiots & wannabe-peacelovers as flies b4 stompin' 'em flat, according to the novel lah:D

yang amat berkasar lato tupai I.D.I.O.T (mal), K.K.O.N.G. (univ), B.A. (Hons) Uk., F.C.U.K.(Fr)

gnehkgnep
30-12-2005, 09:32 AM
yang amat berkasar lato tupai I.D.I.O.T (mal), K.K.O.N.G. (univ), B.A. (Hons) Uk., F.C.U.K.(Fr)

Very unique credentials u have lato tupai......lol :D :p

chsum
30-12-2005, 10:42 AM
Let me share with u my defination of sheer beauty.

Many moons ago, I was on transit in bangkok airport for 7 long hours, sitting and rotting at the far end of the transit lounge with over few hundred ppl waiting for my connecting flight to UK with hundreds of flight crew walking by us each minute, this particular air stewardess caught my attention by her beauty and the way she walk was sheer allegance, it was poetry in motion, I was masmerised for a few minutes she took to walk the whole length of the transit lounge, when she walk past me, my head turned (yes I am guilty of first degree staring) :eek: , as my neck could not maintain the head turn anymore, I turn my head and was looking into the straing eyes of all the man at the transit lounge oogling at her, but there was no wolf whistle tho.

my dua sen

Chsum
S.T.A.R.E (uk) O.O.G.L.E (thai) :D

tupai
30-12-2005, 06:56 PM
Very unique credentials u have lato tupai......lol :D :p

tankui tankui :p :p

but i aso want Chsum's S.T.A.R.E (uk) O.O.G.L.E (thai) ...where to git ah?
can buy one ah?

Methink the art of mastering & passing the S.T.A.R.E (uk) exams must be tougher than leather lah...aso the O.O.G.L.E (thai) degree...me must first learn to phoot thai. Phaen phoot thai mai dai :p


Yang Akan Belajar lagi lato tupai. I.D.I.O.T (mal), K.K.O.N.G. (univ), B.A. (Hons) Uk., F.C.U.K.(Fr)

AllUrban
03-01-2006, 03:25 PM
Let me share with u my defination of sheer beauty.

Many moons ago, I was on transit in bangkok airport for 7 long hours, sitting and rotting at the far end of the transit lounge with over few hundred ppl waiting for my connecting flight to UK with hundreds of flight crew walking by us each minute, this particular air stewardess caught my attention by her beauty and the way she walk was sheer allegance, it was poetry in motion, I was masmerised for a few minutes she took to walk the whole length of the transit lounge, when she walk past me, my head turned (yes I am guilty of first degree staring) :eek: , as my neck could not maintain the head turn anymore, I turn my head and was looking into the straing eyes of all the man at the transit lounge oogling at her, but there was no wolf whistle tho.

my dua sen

Chsum
S.T.A.R.E (uk) O.O.G.L.E (thai) :D

Reminds me of something that one of my Islamic teachers in Canada pointed out...God has created beauty, so it's not wrong to appreciate beauty.

He said to me, when I was a guy going through puberty: "It is not wrong to appreciate beauty, as long as you appreciate it in the correct way. Appreciate beauty with your mind first, and your heart second, rather than with your body."

And, he pointed out, "Do not stare arrogantly at people, walk humbly on this earth."

Of course, the thing I like the most was the last bit of advice: "just remember, God will forgive the first glance, because we are all human. But the second one, you are responsible for...."

To my hormonally charged, teenage male mind, this translated somehow to "make that first glance last as long as possible." It makes life fun to try to glance as long as possible without staring....tough on the eye muscles though ;)

:D :cool: